a portable identity?--Colleen

[Guest guest]

Where did you find that workbook? The title sounds kind of scary:),

but I'm leaving the country too and have NO IDEA what I will do for

work in the new country--my husband has a job and I may work or I may

choose to stay at home and have kids. I'm trying to prepare so I

won't freak out since I won't have anything to achieve for a while. HA!

Trish

>

> > I'm curious to know how many of you dealt with being a KO by

> > " achieving, " and if you did, were you able to get rid of that need at

> > some point? I'm working on this right now.

> >

> > I learned as a child that if I was exceptional in school that I could

> > win approval, but more importantly, avoid lots of abuse. In high

> > school, I realized being great at school was a way that I could escape

> > my family and go far away to college. I'm not a genius or anything--I

> > have some tallents, but I was basically able to excell because I put

> > SO MUCH TIME into it and effort.

> >

> > These days, it feels to me sometimes that success in work or in

> > continuing education is a question of survival for me. I tend to set

> > unrealistic goals for myelf and then carry through until I reach the

> > unrealistic goals. Also, I keep raising the stakes on myself. For

> > instance, I speak a second language extremely well, but rather than be

> > proud of that, I feel insecure because I don't speak like a native

> > speaker!

> >

> > I've been able to survive some pretty amazing situations with this

> > mentality where I just work through everything to achieve my

> > goal--it's served me, but I'm so tired now. I just want to stop! I'm

> > working on it in several ways--but I can tell this is something that

> > may be with me all my life.

> >

> > Trish

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > Problems? Ask our friendly List Manager for help at

> > @... SEND HER ANY POSTS THAT CONCERN YOU; DO NOT

> > Respond ON THE GROUP.

> >

> > To order the KO bible " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " call 888-35-SHELL

> > () for your copy. We also refer to " Understanding the

> > Borderline Mother " (Lawson) and " Surviving the Borderline Parent, "

> > (Roth) which you can find at any bookstore. Welcome to the WTO

> > community!

> >

> > From Randi Kreger, Owner BPDCentral, WTO Online Community and author

> > SWOE and the SWOE Workbook.

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

The book was recommended to me by an ex-pat in Mexico.

I found the book at Amazon. They also have a website

" aportableidentity.com " and a chat board.

This was my first move out of country.

On Saturday, February 25, 2006, at 10:23 PM, tlblack2006 wrote:

> Where did you find that workbook?  The title sounds kind of scary:),

> but I'm leaving the country too and have NO IDEA what I will do for

> work in the new country--my husband has a job and I may work or I may

> choose to stay at home and have kids.  I'm trying to prepare so I

> won't freak out since I won't have anything to achieve for a while. 

> HA!

>

> Trish

>

>

> >

> > > I'm curious to know how many of you dealt with being a KO by

> > > " achieving, " and if you did, were you able to get rid of that need

> at

> > > some point?  I'm working on this right now.

> > >

> > > I learned as a child that if I was exceptional in school that I

> could

> > > win approval, but more importantly, avoid lots of abuse.  In high

> > > school, I realized being great at school was a way that I could

> escape

> > > my family and go far away to college.  I'm not a genius or

> anything--I

> > > have some tallents, but I was basically able to excell because I

> put

> > > SO MUCH TIME into it and effort.

> > >

> > > These days, it feels to me sometimes that success in work or in

> > > continuing education is a question of survival for me.  I tend to

> set

> > > unrealistic goals for myelf and then carry through until I reach

> the

> > > unrealistic goals. Also, I keep raising the stakes on myself.  For

> > > instance, I speak a second language extremely well, but rather

> than be

> > > proud of that, I feel insecure because I don't speak like a native

> > > speaker!

> > >

> > > I've been able to survive some pretty amazing situations with this

> > > mentality where I just work through everything to achieve my

> > > goal--it's served me, but I'm so tired now.  I just want to stop! 

> I'm

> > > working on it in several ways--but I can tell this is something

> that

> > > may be with me all my life. 

> > >

> > > Trish

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > Problems? Ask our friendly List Manager for help at

> > > @... SEND HER ANY POSTS THAT CONCERN YOU; DO NOT

> > > Respond ON THE GROUP.

> > >

> > > To order the KO bible " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " call

> 888-35-SHELL

> > > () for your copy. We also refer to " Understanding the

> > > Borderline Mother " (Lawson) and " Surviving the Borderline Parent, "

> > > (Roth) which you can find at any bookstore. Welcome to the WTO

> > > community!

> > >

> > > From Randi Kreger, Owner BPDCentral, WTO Online Community and

> author

> > > SWOE and the SWOE Workbook.

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >