Guest guest Posted October 25, 2001 Report Share Posted October 25, 2001 In a message dated 10/25/01 5:58:26 PM Central Daylight Time, muollo3@... writes: > i have a few and i'm geared to have more. i can't handle this. i already > have enough doubts about my parenting skills without having other people > saying i really do have a reason to feel that way. i know they are trying > to help and only have mine and my kids best interests at heart What kind of things are they telling you? Its not right if it is hurting your feelings. I'm sorry this is happening. They should be trained to say things tactfully. le married to Isaac SAHM to Marisa 6 Jordan 3 Christian 2 1-26-01 cvr 5-30-01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 25, 2001 Report Share Posted October 25, 2001 In a message dated 10/25/01 7:09:39 PM Central Daylight Time, nitetrax@... writes: > > i lack structure > > i lack discipline > > i apparantly lack good judgment > > > > so in a nutshell...i'm lacking > > I bet more than anything, you're lacking in support. Do these know-it-alls > who make these observations have any useful suggestions, or do they come > over and tell you what you're not doing right I agree. They should give you constructive criticism. Not tear you down. If they do that it isn't helping the child any. Call them back and demand that they tell you how they expect you to implement structure and discipline. I can't imagine that anyone should be telling you that you lack good judgement!!! Call them back!!! Don't feel bad though. I know it is hard enough to parent an nt child. It is even harder for one who is not. I have no idea how to discipline Puff. I have to restrain myself from losing my temper. Yelling does not help. I am so knew to the game, that I don't have any real suggestions, but am offering support. I can almost hear the hurt in your email. I would love to reach out and offer you a shoulder, like so many of you have to me lately. le married to Isaac SAHM to Marisa 6 Jordan 3 Christian 2 1-26-01 cvr 5-30-01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 25, 2001 Report Share Posted October 25, 2001 In a message dated 10/25/01 8:54:46 PM Central Daylight Time, muollo3@... writes: > I assure you that if someone told me how to parent I would be on the phone > to dh crying and he would " handle " it. < > > see danielle, that's part of the problem. i'm doing this all alone and i > pretty much always have been I'm sorry, I shouldn't have said anything. How are you at yelling? Call them back. You are your child's advocate. I have faith. le married to Isaac SAHM to Marisa 6 Jordan 3 Christian 2 1-26-01 cvr 5-30-01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 25, 2001 Report Share Posted October 25, 2001 behavioral therapists coming to your home and telling you how to change your parenting? i have a few and i'm geared to have more. i can't handle this. i already have enough doubts about my parenting skills without having other people saying i really do have a reason to feel that way. i know they are trying to help and only have mine and my kids best interests at heart, but how am i supposed to keep from crying after everytime someone is here. this is killing me :'( love a very sad mommy " Isn't it wonderful how each of us on this earth was created just a little bit different? " - Linus " I gave up trying to understand people long ago. Now I just let them try to understand me. " - Snoopy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 25, 2001 Report Share Posted October 25, 2001 > I assure you that if someone told me how to parent I would be on the phone to dh crying and he would " handle " it. < see danielle, that's part of the problem. i'm doing this all alone and i pretty much always have been. " Isn't it wonderful how each of us on this earth was created just a little bit different? " - Linus " I gave up trying to understand people long ago. Now I just let them try to understand me. " - Snoopy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 25, 2001 Report Share Posted October 25, 2001 > I bet more than anything, you're lacking in support. Do these know- it-alls > who make these observations have any useful suggestions, or do they come > over and tell you what you're not doing right? Sissi is right on. It's awfully darn difficult to be " on " 24/7. You just get to worn out physically and emotionally. Consistency is important but when you are just so worn out it's tough to do it 100% of the time, not to mention it's almost impossible to enforce directives when you are tending the toddler. Keep trying. That's all we can do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 25, 2001 Report Share Posted October 25, 2001 > I'm sorry, I shouldn't have said anything. < it's ok, don't feel bad " Isn't it wonderful how each of us on this earth was created just a little bit different? " - Linus " I gave up trying to understand people long ago. Now I just let them try to understand me. " - Snoopy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 26, 2001 Report Share Posted October 26, 2001 : Not that it helps, but I think Sara had some problem with someone coming into her house and doing about the same thing to her. I think it was a county person coming to " help " her with something. Sara, are you out there? , 40, Columbus, OH Bipolar, Borderline Personality Disorder, and???? Mom to: , 15, probably Bipolar Annie, 12, so far so good! JD, 8, Autism, severe ADHD, maybe bipolar, AND my reason for getting out of bed each day!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 26, 2001 Report Share Posted October 26, 2001 , This sure sounds as if they are overstepping their boundaries a bit! This is just like the ones that told Sara that her house was a mess until she asked them if they could get back to what they were there for! Besides, where do they get off making these judgements about you, it's not like they've known you up close and personal. Try not to give what they said much weight. They are wrong and you know that you are trying to do the best you can for your children. Period. Big cyber hug . Sue ---------------------------------------------------- Sign Up for NetZero Platinum Today Only $9.95 per month! http://my.netzero.net/s/signup?r=platinum & refcd=PT97 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 27, 2001 Report Share Posted October 27, 2001 > > i lack structure > > i lack discipline > > i apparantly lack good judgment : I am sure that I lack structure and discipline and obviously good judgment too or I would not have married Lou. I would like to see those who criticize you manage what you probably manage. They think it is so easy. They simply haven't a clue. A full time mothering relationship is MUCH different from a therapist's relationship. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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