Guest guest Posted June 3, 2006 Report Share Posted June 3, 2006 I've got a question for you guys. How do you go about healing a wrecked self-esteem? I am reading, and reading on BPD...but I was wondering if any of you have any good tips for healing the damage that has been done to me by my nada? I have always been very non- confrontational to the point of having a hard time speaking up no matter what the problem. When I get angry, I just cry. I think I said before, that I've kind-of fulfilled my nada's prediction of me being a lazy woman who is incapable of doing anything. I have let myself go! I've been married for almost 13 years now to a very fit and attractive military man. He is great, but no matter what I am still insecure and overweight, and my house is a mess. The best I can see it, from a slightly distanced perspective, is it's easier to hate oneself when you are fat and living in a chaotic mess. My mother was very controlling and narcissistic. Everything is about her, and I now know that is a trait of BPD. Everything I did, she went behind me and did again. Nothing I ever did was good enough. I'm just wondering how you build up a self-esteem that has been destroyed by 30 years of my mother's abuse? Sassy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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