A Nada AND a Disfunctional Dad?

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Hi All,

Does anyone here feel like both of their parents have major

personality disorders? I know I've posted about this before, but I

guess some days I'm caught between being completely amazed that I'm

not some raving lunatic, and feeling completely alone without the

benefit of even one stable parent.

A few weeks ago I overheard my dad telling his new girlfriend: " I know

how my kids feel about me and the things I do. I just don't care. "

Which I know is true, I've just never heard him say it before.

Then yesterday his girlfriend confessed her confusion to me about some

of the things he's been doing. For instance, he tells her how much he

loves kids and that he always loved being a dad (he even tells her

stories of my childhood that just aren't true, to make himself look

like a good dad... my memories of him are that he just wasn't around

very much, and when he was, he largely ignored us). But when her

grandkids recently came for a visit, he suddenly disappeared for two

days. He told my husband that he had to " escape " the family thing, and

so he made plans to attend five baseball games in two days.

I think it's sad that he's being dishonest with his girlfriend, but it

doesn't surprise me. I also think it's sad because I actually LIKE

her, and I doubt she'll stick around very long with the way he's

acting.

I guess I'm disappointed. I thought that maybe, given the chance at a

happy/functional relationship, that my dad would go in that direction.

I also thought that once he was in a happy relationship, maybe he'd be

better/more attentive to his own kids. But I guess he's just as bad as

nada, only in a different way.

Any kindred spirits out there?

Thanks,