Thanks to Bill and to all

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Bill's post about "fading away" jogs me to thank him and all of you as I too, fade away. Not that I have posted much, but I have gained so much from all of your posts and discussions over the last two and a half years.It was a great comfort to me to find ASPIRES when I first began to think that my husband of 24 years may have AS. So much compassion, wisdom, insight, courage, humor in your posts lifted me up, helped my understand my own situation and his, and what I have learned from all of you has helped me point others to the tremendous resources that exist for all of us who live with an AS partner or child.Our challenges, after 26 and a half years, were too much and were getting increasingly difficult. We are divorcing. Had I known 20

years ago what was at work in our differences, perhaps we could have managed better--but the damage of so much misunderstanding and "disconnection" has been too great and there is no trust or connection upon which to build. Thank you to those who began ASPIRES and work to maintain this list serve, and thanks to all of you who have shared your lives here so that I could better understand mine and my husband's.All of you have given me so much, but I want to especially thank those of you who have been at this the longest, particularly , Ron and Bill--your posts stand out to me and are the ones which helped me have greater compassion--seeing as best I can what my husband's life must be like for him--and courage--able to say to myself "this is really they way it is always going to be, and it is not healthy for either one of us to keep struggling with it."Many thanks--Tara Seeley