Re: Thursday - Walk, Classical Stretch

[Guest guest]

Hi Donna,

I'm so glad you're feeling more at peace with the situation. I know what it is like to feel so unsettled, wanting to do the right thing but the right thing being so difficult to define too. It sounds like, in my opinion, you're doing great by doing the research for a place for her. You can't disrupt your life or your entire family's for someone else who does have options (again, my opinion). Keep us informed, we're glad to be a sounding board and source of support.

Hugs,

Thursday - Walk, Classical Stretch

Hi Everyone,I'm feeling much more "settled" - I'm not sure when DH and I will get to sit down to talk - he's dealing w/ some work stuff and my daughter's play is this weekend so I don't want to "ruin" that, but I know we have to have the "talk" before the end of the month when we go visit his aunt again. I do feel better b/c I have done some research into finding suitable senior apartments and I have some brochures and information coming my way. She does have money to pay rent - although she is tight w/ her money and doesn't like to spend it..but, what can you do? That is the point of saving for old age/retirement. If she lived closer by in a senior apartment we'd be able to visit her several times a week, have her over to our house frequently, plus being with other people would help. It isn't that I don't like her or care about her - I am just not ready to have the disruption to my family life that would inevitably occur were she to move in with us.Anyway - sorry to keep bringing it up. I really do appreciate everyone's support and help in getting this sorted out in my mind.Today's workout was 30 min on the treadmill, nothing too difficult - an easy walk. Followed up with Classical Stretch 30 min workout the standing and barre routine. When is everyone starting S90? I'm feeling antsy like I want to work hard. I was thinking of starting Sunday, but maybe sooner?Thanks everyone!Donna

[Guest guest]

Part of my great interest in health and fitness has been seeing how frail and

helpless my parents have become. They NEED someone here with them. If your aunt

is not frail, more power to her to live alone!! A friend of mine has her

grandmother, at 101, living alone (albeit, two blocks away) because she is

relatively healthy and can get around.

A " long walk " for my folks is out to the mailbox and back.

The aunt may not want to move in with you any more than you want her to! Your

DH's familial duty is relative. Making sure she is safe and cared for doesn't

mean he has to do it in his household.

Indyrose

>

> Thanks, !

>

> It does feel so good to sort things out w/ my buddies here.  Writing it out

> really helps me put it all in perspective and I know you guys won't " judge " me

> based on what I say.  ((HUGS))

>

> As far as DH's aunt is concerned, I'm not even sure that, if she really

thought

> about it, she would want to live with us.  I think right now she is mourning

the

> 'loss' of her sister (who was her roomate for many years and who has now

decided

> to stay in the nursing home - she is 96 and is unable to walk, bathe, etc. so

I

> think she made the right choice).  I think that perhaps once the " mouning "

> period ends or lessens she may be able to think more clearly about what *she*

> would like to do.  I know she is also afraid to be alone - she fears she may

> fall like her sister.  However, she is in good shape, and even at 92, she is

not

> " frail " .  Plus, there are those alert thingies she can get, she does have

> friends in the neighborhood and from church who check in on her, etc. etc. 

It

> would be easier if she were closer to us in an apt b/c then we would be able

to

> help her more, check in w/ her more, etc.  I know DH feels a great sense of

> obligation to her and, in a way, it is probably a way for him to honor his

> father (his aunt's brother who passed away in 1997) by caring for his aunt. 

I

> also am not sure DH has thought about the impacts it would have on our family

> and the additional responsibilities it would mean for us and for him.    We

are

> both extremely private and crave our " personal space " so it would be a big

> adjustment for us.

>

> Anyway, I'm happy that i made some inquiries and have some options to

present. 

> Some of the places are reasonable in terms of rent and my DH's aunt does have

> money saved that would last her the rest of her life.  So, in a way, at least

> financially, she is in a better place than a lot of seniors.

>

> Thanks again for letting me discuss it - sorry to be so OT lately!

>

> Donna

>

>

>

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: exercisevideos

> Sent: Thu, March 31, 2011 5:35:31 PM

> Subject: Re: Thursday - Walk, Classical Stretch

>

>  

> Hi Donna,

>  

> I'm so glad you're feeling more at peace with the situation. I know what it is

> like to feel so unsettled, wanting to do the right thing but the right thing

> being so difficult to define too. It sounds like, in my opinion, you're doing

> great by doing the research for a place for her. You can't disrupt your life

or

> your entire family's for someone else who does have options (again, my

opinion).

> Keep us informed, we're glad to be a sounding board and source of support.

>  

> Hugs,

>

>  

> Thursday - Walk, Classical Stretch

> >

> > 

> >Hi Everyone,

> >

> >I'm feeling much more " settled " - I'm not sure when DH and I will get to sit

> >down to talk - he's dealing w/ some work stuff and my daughter's play is this

> >weekend so I don't want to " ruin " that, but I know we have to have the " talk "

> >before the end of the month when we go visit his aunt again. I do feel better

> >b/c I have done some research into finding suitable senior apartments and I

have

> >some brochures and information coming my way. She does have money to pay rent

-

> >although she is tight w/ her money and doesn't like to spend it..but, what

can

> >you do? That is the point of saving for old age/retirement. If she lived

closer

> >by in a senior apartment we'd be able to visit her several times a week, have

> >her over to our house frequently, plus being with other people would help.

It

> >isn't that I don't like her or care about her - I am just not ready to have

the

> >disruption to my family life that would inevitably occur were she to move in

> >with us.

> >

> >Anyway - sorry to keep bringing it up. I really do appreciate everyone's

support

> >and help in getting this sorted out in my mind.

> >

> >Today's workout was 30 min on the treadmill, nothing too difficult - an easy

> >walk. Followed up with Classical Stretch 30 min workout the standing and

barre

> >routine. When is everyone starting S90?  I'm feeling antsy like I want to

work

> >hard.  I was thinking of starting Sunday, but maybe sooner?

> >

> >Thanks everyone!

> >

> >Donna

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Indyrose!

Donna

To: exercisevideos Sent: Fri, April 1, 2011 9:13:35 AMSubject: Re: Thursday - Walk, Classical Stretch

Part of my great interest in health and fitness has been seeing how frail and helpless my parents have become. They NEED someone here with them. If your aunt is not frail, more power to her to live alone!! A friend of mine has her grandmother, at 101, living alone (albeit, two blocks away) because she is relatively healthy and can get around.A "long walk" for my folks is out to the mailbox and back.The aunt may not want to move in with you any more than you want her to! Your DH's familial duty is relative. Making sure she is safe and cared for doesn't mean he has to do it in his household.Indyrose>> Thanks, !> > It does feel so good to sort things out w/ my buddies here.Â

Writing it out > really helps me put it all in perspective and I know you guys won't "judge" me > based on what I say. ((HUGS))> > As far as DH's aunt is concerned, I'm not even sure that, if she really thought > about it, she would want to live with us. I think right now she is mourning the > 'loss' of her sister (who was her roomate for many years and who has now decided > to stay in the nursing home - she is 96 and is unable to walk, bathe, etc. so I > think she made the right choice). I think that perhaps once the "mouning" > period ends or lessens she may be able to think more clearly about what *she* > would like to do. I know she is also afraid to be alone - she fears she may > fall like her sister. However, she is in good shape, and even at 92, she is not > "frail". Plus, there are those alert thingies

she can get, she does have > friends in the neighborhood and from church who check in on her, etc. etc. It > would be easier if she were closer to us in an apt b/c then we would be able to > help her more, check in w/ her more, etc.  I know DH feels a great sense of > obligation to her and, in a way, it is probably a way for him to honor his > father (his aunt's brother who passed away in 1997) by caring for his aunt. I > also am not sure DH has thought about the impacts it would have on our family > and the additional responsibilities it would mean for us and for him.   We are > both extremely private and crave our "personal space" so it would be a big > adjustment for us.> > Anyway, I'm happy that i made some inquiries and have some options to present. > Some of the places are reasonable in terms of

rent and my DH's aunt does have > money saved that would last her the rest of her life. So, in a way, at least > financially, she is in a better place than a lot of seniors.> > Thanks again for letting me discuss it - sorry to be so OT lately!> > Donna> > > > > ________________________________> > To: exercisevideos > Sent: Thu, March 31, 2011 5:35:31 PM> Subject: Re: Thursday - Walk, Classical Stretch> >  > Hi Donna,>  > I'm so glad you're feeling more at peace with the situation. I know what it is > like to feel so unsettled, wanting to do the right thing but the right thing > being

so difficult to define too. It sounds like, in my opinion, you're doing > great by doing the research for a place for her. You can't disrupt your life or > your entire family's for someone else who does have options (again, my opinion). > Keep us informed, we're glad to be a sounding board and source of support.> Â > Hugs,> > Â > Thursday - Walk, Classical Stretch> >> >Â >

>Hi Everyone,> >> >I'm feeling much more "settled" - I'm not sure when DH and I will get to sit > >down to talk - he's dealing w/ some work stuff and my daughter's play is this > >weekend so I don't want to "ruin" that, but I know we have to have the "talk" > >before the end of the month when we go visit his aunt again. I do feel better > >b/c I have done some research into finding suitable senior apartments and I have > >some brochures and information coming my way. She does have money to pay rent - > >although she is tight w/ her money and doesn't like to spend it..but, what can > >you do? That is the point of saving for old age/retirement. If she lived closer > >by in a senior apartment we'd be able to visit her several times a week, have > >her over to our house frequently, plus being with other people would help. It >

>isn't that I don't like her or care about her - I am just not ready to have the > >disruption to my family life that would inevitably occur were she to move in > >with us.> >> >Anyway - sorry to keep bringing it up. I really do appreciate everyone's support > >and help in getting this sorted out in my mind.> >> >Today's workout was 30 min on the treadmill, nothing too difficult - an easy > >walk. Followed up with Classical Stretch 30 min workout the standing and barre > >routine. When is everyone starting S90? I'm feeling antsy like I want to work > >hard. I was thinking of starting Sunday, but maybe sooner?> >> >Thanks everyone!> >> >Donna>