Re: New discovery

[Guest guest]

It took me until a few years ago to realise that the way for me

people are 'out of sight, out of mind' really did hurt others.  My

wife said to me one day "if I died tomorrow, you'd just get on with

life, wouldn't you?"  And my reply was "yes, what else could I do?" 

I can't really change the way I work, but I do try to be more

circumspect in how I express my thoughts and think about how someone

else might hear them.  I'm not very good at playing the 'what if'

game - things are the way they are, and you just live with them. 

When someone has died, they're gone, and nothing will change that. 

It doesn't make me sad, although I do miss some people who have

died.  I am sure I would miss my wife, but I do know that only

people who know me really well would be able to tell.

 

I think that goes with the Aspergers

(only being able to think about themselves) and see their

point of view and also thinking that their point of view

IS your point of view.  It's called "theory of mind".  I'm

sure you've heard that before....Asperger's is a wonderful

cluster of symptoms isn't it?  It's not just ONE

issue....If only life were so simple.  I love my little

man and THANK "GOODNESS" (did you like the goodness

part??) that my son is not like him.  It's as if he fights

the same battles, but in a good way and not a negative I

want to delete you from my memory sorta way   I feel

your pain, ! 

 

 

From:

Ponzio

To:

autism-aspergers

Sent:

Thu, June 9, 2011 10:05:50 PM

Subject:

Re: New discovery (was: Re: Re:

All this bible quotes WOW !!!!)

 

it was a light bulb moment. believe me.'

it all made sense as to why he behaves like he

does.

I feel that if our sons turn out like him that

I will have failed in my role as a mother.

An adult can get psychological help if they

have issues if they can admit they have a problem.

Our pediatrician also suggested he may

have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. 

On 10 June 2011 11:52,

R. Tucker

wrote:

Yeah, the light just kinda shines

on you all of this sudden.  This guy is

not just a total _____bleep bleep.  He's

autistic!!  (Speaking from my experience

with my father) ----not generalizing all

autistics here. 

 

 

From:

Ponzio

To:

autism-aspergers

Sent:

Thu, June 9, 2011 8:31:55 PM

Subject:

Re: New discovery (was: Re:

Re: All this

bible quotes WOW !!!!)

 

some people can be in denial

though. especially if they are

adults as they can think that

they don't have a problem but

other peoples' perceptions are

different. e.g. my husband

doesn't think he has a problem

but he acts just like our 5

year old son. hard to cope

with a grown man acting like

the whole world revolves

around him. he works in the IT

industry and has trouble

making friends and is very

short tempered as his

communication is poor. I

thought it was just him being

selfish but it's more than

that.

On 10

June 2011 10:21, Annie Shank

wrote:

On Jun 9, 2011, at

6:12 PM, Ponzio

wrote:

 

there are 6

people on my soon

to be ex husbands'

side of the family

that are suspected

to be autistic or

aspergers. they

didn't call it by

these labels while

these people were

young.

On 10 June 2011

10:09, Annie Shank

wrote

And on that

note......

Did anyone

else see the

news this a.m.

about the

discoveries on

autism and

genetics?

 Really

interesting

stuff!  Here's

a link from

CBS News,

which is where

I saw the TV

report this

morning:

http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504763_162-20070333-10391704.html

  If you

google "autism

and genetics,"

there are

other articles

as well.

 While the

researchers

admit that

this is "toe

in the door"

stuff with no

specific

application to

any treatment

of autism as

yet, they do

say that

treatments

will be easier

to design as

they

understand

more and more

about what

they've found.

 

Just really

really good

news!

What's really interesting is

that the kids in this study

didn't have any history of

autism in their families, or

any autistic siblings

either.

Annie              

             annie@...

----

"I would rather be

a coward than brave

because people hurt

you when you are

brave."

--E. M. Forster