Guest guest Posted February 4, 2006 Report Share Posted February 4, 2006 Hello all my friends. As most of you probably know, my dear sweet dad passed away last Sunday. I haven't had a chance to read any posts yet but Maree told me that many of you had sent condolence messages and I really appreciate your thoughts at this time. Especially you Maree, thanks for being a friend. I know he is no longer suffering and is at peace. I know he is with God now and all the angels and saints. I have no regrets. I said what needed to be said and when he was begging me to let him die, I just told him how much I and my children all loved him and that we were there for him. I couldn't give him permission to go, but I just told him to do what he needed to do. And his last words to my mum were " darling darling " and then he took two short breaths and let go of this life. Of course I feel sad, I cry every day still for my father, but I also feel a sense of relief. Those of you who know about my MIL issues, might like to know that she turned up at the funeral, had the hide to go to communion, then didn't even bother to come and give her condolences to my mum, me, or her grandchildren. What's the point of going to a funeral, if you don't give your condolences to the family? Especially in my culture, she should have turned up at my mother's house from the very first day she heard my dad had passed away. No wait.... she should have been there to see him before he died, she knew he was dying. Oh well, she will one day face her own judgement day, may God have mercy on her soul. Sorry to dump this all on you guys, but if you post back and tell me I'm over-reacting, I won't take it to heart and at the same time any advice or opinions or comments telling me to get over myself will be appreciated. Luv yoos all, Rose. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2006 Report Share Posted February 4, 2006 Hi Rose Nice to see you back on board. I hope you, your Mum and your kids are coping with your Dad's passing as best one can. As you say he is now at peace and no longer in pain. I am sure there is a big hole in your life and your Mum's life that can't be filled. I hope with time your pain eases. At least you and your Mum have each other. Don't know what to say regards MIL. You're certainly not over reacting - she has disappointed you - yet again - at a time when it really mattered. Try not to use your emotional energy and strength on her and her shortcomings at this time. Focus on yourself, your Mum and your family. Do take care of yourself, Rose, you've been in our thoughts. Lorraine > > Hello all my friends. As most of you probably know, my dear sweet > dad passed away last Sunday. I haven't had a chance to read any > posts yet but Maree told me that many of you had sent condolence > messages and I really appreciate your thoughts at this time. > Especially you Maree, thanks for being a friend. > > I know he is no longer suffering and is at peace. I know he is with > God now and all the angels and saints. I have no regrets. I said > what needed to be said and when he was begging me to let him die, I > just told him how much I and my children all loved him and that we > were there for him. I couldn't give him permission to go, but I > just told him to do what he needed to do. And his last words to my > mum were " darling darling " and then he took two short breaths and > let go of this life. > > Of course I feel sad, I cry every day still for my father, but I > also feel a sense of relief. > > Those of you who know about my MIL issues, might like to know that > she turned up at the funeral, had the hide to go to communion, then > didn't even bother to come and give her condolences to my mum, me, > or her grandchildren. What's the point of going to a funeral, if > you don't give your condolences to the family? Especially in my > culture, she should have turned up at my mother's house from the > very first day she heard my dad had passed away. No wait.... she > should have been there to see him before he died, she knew he was > dying. Oh well, she will one day face her own judgement day, may > God have mercy on her soul. > > Sorry to dump this all on you guys, but if you post back and tell me > I'm over-reacting, I won't take it to heart and at the same time any > advice or opinions or comments telling me to get over myself will be > appreciated. > > Luv yoos all, Rose. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2006 Report Share Posted February 4, 2006 Hi Rose Nice to see you back on board. I hope you, your Mum and your kids are coping with your Dad's passing as best one can. As you say he is now at peace and no longer in pain. I am sure there is a big hole in your life and your Mum's life that can't be filled. I hope with time your pain eases. At least you and your Mum have each other. Don't know what to say regards MIL. You're certainly not over reacting - she has disappointed you - yet again - at a time when it really mattered. Try not to use your emotional energy and strength on her and her shortcomings at this time. Focus on yourself, your Mum and your family. Do take care of yourself, Rose, you've been in our thoughts. Lorraine > > Hello all my friends. As most of you probably know, my dear sweet > dad passed away last Sunday. I haven't had a chance to read any > posts yet but Maree told me that many of you had sent condolence > messages and I really appreciate your thoughts at this time. > Especially you Maree, thanks for being a friend. > > I know he is no longer suffering and is at peace. I know he is with > God now and all the angels and saints. I have no regrets. I said > what needed to be said and when he was begging me to let him die, I > just told him how much I and my children all loved him and that we > were there for him. I couldn't give him permission to go, but I > just told him to do what he needed to do. And his last words to my > mum were " darling darling " and then he took two short breaths and > let go of this life. > > Of course I feel sad, I cry every day still for my father, but I > also feel a sense of relief. > > Those of you who know about my MIL issues, might like to know that > she turned up at the funeral, had the hide to go to communion, then > didn't even bother to come and give her condolences to my mum, me, > or her grandchildren. What's the point of going to a funeral, if > you don't give your condolences to the family? Especially in my > culture, she should have turned up at my mother's house from the > very first day she heard my dad had passed away. No wait.... she > should have been there to see him before he died, she knew he was > dying. Oh well, she will one day face her own judgement day, may > God have mercy on her soul. > > Sorry to dump this all on you guys, but if you post back and tell me > I'm over-reacting, I won't take it to heart and at the same time any > advice or opinions or comments telling me to get over myself will be > appreciated. > > Luv yoos all, Rose. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2006 Report Share Posted February 4, 2006 Hi Rose, How lovely to have been able to tell your Dad how you felt about him and lovely for him to have his loved ones around him. Dont let MIL give you an ulcer, dont dwell on her at all, she doesn't deserve even being talked about. elaine A message from Rose. Hello all my friends. As most of you probably know, my dear sweet dad passed away last Sunday. I just told him to do what he needed to do. And his last words to my mum were "darling darling" and then he took two short breaths and let go of this life.Of course I feel sad, I cry every day still for my father, but I also feel a sense of relief.Those of you who know about my MIL issues, might like to know that she turned up at the funeral, had the hide to go to communion, then didn't even bother to come and give her condolences to my mum, me, or her grandchildren. What's the point of going to a funeral, if you don't give your condolences to the family? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2006 Report Share Posted February 4, 2006 Dear Rose I am very sad for you, I can imagine the sadness in your heart I lost my dear mum 2 years ago and I can empathise with what you are feeling at the moment. It is marvelous that you were with him until the end and you were able to tell him what he meant for you. Here you have many friends who are fond of you and hopefully we can offer you some small support. Love Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2006 Report Share Posted February 4, 2006 Rosie My thoughts & prayers are with you at this hard time. Just let the issue with the MIL go... its not worth getting " grey " over. Love Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2006 Report Share Posted February 4, 2006 Rosie My thoughts & prayers are with you at this hard time. Just let the issue with the MIL go... its not worth getting " grey " over. Love Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2006 Report Share Posted February 4, 2006 My dear Rosie You are definitely not over reacting when it comes to that wicked MIL of yours. The best thing to do about a woman like that is to completely ignore her and treat her with the comtempt that she deserves. My heart felt sympathy comes to you on the passing of your dear dad. I know how hard it is to lose your parent. My father has been gone 10 years in May and I can honestly say I miss him just as much today as I did on the day he died and at his funeral. Give yourself time to grieve for him dont let anyone or anything get to you. There a few of us here who have lost one or both parents so we can all sympathize with you and we will all lend you our shoulders when needs be. Mate hold your head high and let the other old bag stew in her own juices. If she sees that she isnt getting to you she may stop her nagging. I know it is hard - very hard. Take care Love Mazz Rosie wrote: > Hello all my friends. As most of you probably know, my dear sweet > dad passed away last Sunday. I haven't had a chance to read any > posts yet but Maree told me that many of you had sent condolence > messages and I really appreciate your thoughts at this time. > Especially you Maree, thanks for being a friend. > > I know he is no longer suffering and is at peace. I know he is with > God now and all the angels and saints. I have no regrets. I said > what needed to be said and when he was begging me to let him die, I > just told him how much I and my children all loved him and that we > were there for him. I couldn't give him permission to go, but I > just told him to do what he needed to do. And his last words to my > mum were " darling darling " and then he took two short breaths and > let go of this life. > > Of course I feel sad, I cry every day still for my father, but I > also feel a sense of relief. > > Those of you who know about my MIL issues, might like to know that > she turned up at the funeral, had the hide to go to communion, then > didn't even bother to come and give her condolences to my mum, me, > or her grandchildren. What's the point of going to a funeral, if > you don't give your condolences to the family? Especially in my > culture, she should have turned up at my mother's house from the > very first day she heard my dad had passed away. No wait.... she > should have been there to see him before he died, she knew he was > dying. Oh well, she will one day face her own judgement day, may > God have mercy on her soul. > > Sorry to dump this all on you guys, but if you post back and tell me > I'm over-reacting, I won't take it to heart and at the same time any > advice or opinions or comments telling me to get over myself will be > appreciated. > > Luv yoos all, Rose. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2006 Report Share Posted February 4, 2006 My dear Rosie You are definitely not over reacting when it comes to that wicked MIL of yours. The best thing to do about a woman like that is to completely ignore her and treat her with the comtempt that she deserves. My heart felt sympathy comes to you on the passing of your dear dad. I know how hard it is to lose your parent. My father has been gone 10 years in May and I can honestly say I miss him just as much today as I did on the day he died and at his funeral. Give yourself time to grieve for him dont let anyone or anything get to you. There a few of us here who have lost one or both parents so we can all sympathize with you and we will all lend you our shoulders when needs be. Mate hold your head high and let the other old bag stew in her own juices. If she sees that she isnt getting to you she may stop her nagging. I know it is hard - very hard. Take care Love Mazz Rosie wrote: > Hello all my friends. As most of you probably know, my dear sweet > dad passed away last Sunday. I haven't had a chance to read any > posts yet but Maree told me that many of you had sent condolence > messages and I really appreciate your thoughts at this time. > Especially you Maree, thanks for being a friend. > > I know he is no longer suffering and is at peace. I know he is with > God now and all the angels and saints. I have no regrets. I said > what needed to be said and when he was begging me to let him die, I > just told him how much I and my children all loved him and that we > were there for him. I couldn't give him permission to go, but I > just told him to do what he needed to do. And his last words to my > mum were " darling darling " and then he took two short breaths and > let go of this life. > > Of course I feel sad, I cry every day still for my father, but I > also feel a sense of relief. > > Those of you who know about my MIL issues, might like to know that > she turned up at the funeral, had the hide to go to communion, then > didn't even bother to come and give her condolences to my mum, me, > or her grandchildren. What's the point of going to a funeral, if > you don't give your condolences to the family? Especially in my > culture, she should have turned up at my mother's house from the > very first day she heard my dad had passed away. No wait.... she > should have been there to see him before he died, she knew he was > dying. Oh well, she will one day face her own judgement day, may > God have mercy on her soul. > > Sorry to dump this all on you guys, but if you post back and tell me > I'm over-reacting, I won't take it to heart and at the same time any > advice or opinions or comments telling me to get over myself will be > appreciated. > > Luv yoos all, Rose. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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