Re: Re: embarassing question -- Felicity

[Guest guest]

Felicity,

Trust me no one " become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or because sex is

scary or freaks them out. "

It is about CONTROL.

A " low sex drive " is common when someone is anorexic.

She should be seeking help from a pro.

Respectfully,

.

Felicity wrote:

what do you mean never?

never at all?

do you like kissing and cuddling?

did you think boys were cute in high school?

are there movie stars that make you feel hot?

sometimes when people are freaked out about something they think

" never " and

" always " and it's not really true, just your mind amplifying the problem

how long have you been anorexic?

the reason I ask that is wondering if it is physical or psychological

not that any specific answer would tell if it were physical or

psychological

but how long has your body been low energy, low hormones etc?

so that would be a physical reason for low sex drive

sometimes people might become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

because sex is scary or freaks them out

the only scary thing about sex is that it is very very intimate

if intimacy freaks you out, sex might

how are you and your finance with intimacy?

by which i mean sharing deep dark feelings or showing your

embarrassing parts of yourselves

or being able to tell the truth about things -- like i am or am not

in the mood to talk/cuddle/do anything you expect me to do

you don't even have to love sexual satisfaction or be in the mood for

your own satisfaction to enjoy sex

it can just be a very big cuddle, a way of being close and sharing a

very intimate activity

it makes feeling close to someone even that much better

like if you enjoy a really good date, or a really good talk with your

boyfriend

this is the same idea

only it has a special way of making you feel very, very close with

that other person

there is nothing in the world wrong with having a low sex drive if it

is the real you

some people are high, some low

you just need to sort it out

is it physical?

psychological?

intimacy issues?

or is it just the way you are

according the " the pathway " aka " the solution " food obsessions

(or any obsession -- spending money, alcohol, --

joke--) is partly about not knowing how to be intimate with ourselves

which means really accept ourselves just the way we are

once we can be intimate with ourselves we can be intimate with others

fyi -- sex is really lots of fun:)

> I've NEVER had a sex drive though

>

> n wrote: Yes - regular pre-

> wedding stress, increased further due to expectations of

> the honeymoon, and losing your virginity

> n

>

> At 08:34 AM 4/29/2006, you wrote:

> >Tara

> >worrying about your sex drive could partly be pre-wedding stress.

> >felicity

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I'm sorry if it sounding like I was saying this is the whole reason a

person would become anorexic. I simply meant that it might

potentially in some cases be a small part of a very complex illness.

felicity

> Felicity,

>

> Trust me no one " become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

> because sex is scary or freaks them out. "

>

> It is about CONTROL.

>

> A " low sex drive " is common when someone is anorexic.

>

> She should be seeking help from a pro.

>

> Respectfully,

>

> .

>

>

>

>

>

> Felicity wrote:

> what do you mean never?

> never at all?

> do you like kissing and cuddling?

> did you think boys were cute in high school?

> are there movie stars that make you feel hot?

>

> sometimes when people are freaked out about something they think

> " never " and

> " always " and it's not really true, just your mind amplifying the

> problem

>

> how long have you been anorexic?

> the reason I ask that is wondering if it is physical or psychological

> not that any specific answer would tell if it were physical or

> psychological

> but how long has your body been low energy, low hormones etc?

> so that would be a physical reason for low sex drive

> sometimes people might become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

> because sex is scary or freaks them out

>

> the only scary thing about sex is that it is very very intimate

> if intimacy freaks you out, sex might

> how are you and your finance with intimacy?

> by which i mean sharing deep dark feelings or showing your

> embarrassing parts of yourselves

> or being able to tell the truth about things -- like i am or am not

> in the mood to talk/cuddle/do anything you expect me to do

>

> you don't even have to love sexual satisfaction or be in the mood for

> your own satisfaction to enjoy sex

> it can just be a very big cuddle, a way of being close and sharing a

> very intimate activity

> it makes feeling close to someone even that much better

> like if you enjoy a really good date, or a really good talk with your

> boyfriend

> this is the same idea

> only it has a special way of making you feel very, very close with

> that other person

>

>

> there is nothing in the world wrong with having a low sex drive if it

> is the real you

> some people are high, some low

>

> you just need to sort it out

> is it physical?

> psychological?

> intimacy issues?

> or is it just the way you are

>

> according the " the pathway " aka " the solution " food obsessions

> (or any obsession -- spending money, alcohol, --

> joke--) is partly about not knowing how to be intimate with ourselves

> which means really accept ourselves just the way we are

>

> once we can be intimate with ourselves we can be intimate with others

>

> fyi -- sex is really lots of fun:)

>

>

>

>

> > I've NEVER had a sex drive though

> >

> > n wrote: Yes - regular pre-

> > wedding stress, increased further due to expectations of

> > the honeymoon, and losing your virginity

> > n

> >

> > At 08:34 AM 4/29/2006, you wrote:

> > >Tara

> > >worrying about your sex drive could partly be pre-wedding stress.

> > >felicity

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

I'm sorry, Felicity, if I came across harsh.

I know you didn't mean any harm.

But trust me, it is not part of the problem.

I have 2.5 decades of experience and I counsel four anorexic women.

It is an awful psychological disease.

You are a good person Felicity. For obvious reasons, anorexia is a sensitive

subject for me.

I'm a sophisticated 47 year old woman starting a new company; raising a 15 yr

old son; relaunching a high tech client; yet I was in " cardiac arrest " in

London.

My poor father is watching me for the next several weeks. I feel like an

idiot. I can see the sadness in his eyes.

I'm so angry, so frustrated, so confused. My partners are concerned.

Thank God my Brain is strong.

I still know how to relaunch a company; start a new company; it energizes me.

:-)

BUT physicially I am not strong. I'm so cross with myself. I'm an

intelligent person. I should know better.

Felicity wrote:

I'm sorry if it sounding like I was saying this is the whole reason a

person would become anorexic. I simply meant that it might

potentially in some cases be a small part of a very complex illness.

felicity

> Felicity,

>

> Trust me no one " become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

> because sex is scary or freaks them out. "

>

> It is about CONTROL.

>

> A " low sex drive " is common when someone is anorexic.

>

> She should be seeking help from a pro.

>

> Respectfully,

>

> .

>

>

>

>

>

> Felicity wrote:

> what do you mean never?

> never at all?

> do you like kissing and cuddling?

> did you think boys were cute in high school?

> are there movie stars that make you feel hot?

>

> sometimes when people are freaked out about something they think

> " never " and

> " always " and it's not really true, just your mind amplifying the

> problem

>

> how long have you been anorexic?

> the reason I ask that is wondering if it is physical or psychological

> not that any specific answer would tell if it were physical or

> psychological

> but how long has your body been low energy, low hormones etc?

> so that would be a physical reason for low sex drive

> sometimes people might become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

> because sex is scary or freaks them out

>

> the only scary thing about sex is that it is very very intimate

> if intimacy freaks you out, sex might

> how are you and your finance with intimacy?

> by which i mean sharing deep dark feelings or showing your

> embarrassing parts of yourselves

> or being able to tell the truth about things -- like i am or am not

> in the mood to talk/cuddle/do anything you expect me to do

>

> you don't even have to love sexual satisfaction or be in the mood for

> your own satisfaction to enjoy sex

> it can just be a very big cuddle, a way of being close and sharing a

> very intimate activity

> it makes feeling close to someone even that much better

> like if you enjoy a really good date, or a really good talk with your

> boyfriend

> this is the same idea

> only it has a special way of making you feel very, very close with

> that other person

>

>

> there is nothing in the world wrong with having a low sex drive if it

> is the real you

> some people are high, some low

>

> you just need to sort it out

> is it physical?

> psychological?

> intimacy issues?

> or is it just the way you are

>

> according the " the pathway " aka " the solution " food obsessions

> (or any obsession -- spending money, alcohol, --

> joke--) is partly about not knowing how to be intimate with ourselves

> which means really accept ourselves just the way we are

>

> once we can be intimate with ourselves we can be intimate with others

>

> fyi -- sex is really lots of fun:)

>

>

>

>

> > I've NEVER had a sex drive though

> >

> > n wrote: Yes - regular pre-

> > wedding stress, increased further due to expectations of

> > the honeymoon, and losing your virginity

> > n

> >

> > At 08:34 AM 4/29/2006, you wrote:

> > >Tara

> > >worrying about your sex drive could partly be pre-wedding stress.

> > >felicity

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Oh... I hope you start feeling better!!!! I'm very impressed with

everything you are doing, just make sure you keep taking care of yourself!

Re: Re: embarassing question --

Felicity

> I'm sorry, Felicity, if I came across harsh.

>

> I know you didn't mean any harm.

>

> But trust me, it is not part of the problem.

>

> I have 2.5 decades of experience and I counsel four anorexic women.

>

> It is an awful psychological disease.

>

> You are a good person Felicity. For obvious reasons, anorexia is a

> sensitive subject for me.

>

> I'm a sophisticated 47 year old woman starting a new company; raising a

> 15 yr old son; relaunching a high tech client; yet I was in " cardiac

> arrest " in London.

>

> My poor father is watching me for the next several weeks. I feel like an

> idiot. I can see the sadness in his eyes.

>

> I'm so angry, so frustrated, so confused. My partners are concerned.

>

> Thank God my Brain is strong.

>

> I still know how to relaunch a company; start a new company; it energizes

> me. :-)

>

> BUT physicially I am not strong. I'm so cross with myself. I'm an

> intelligent person. I should know better.

>

>

> Felicity wrote:

>

> I'm sorry if it sounding like I was saying this is the whole reason a

> person would become anorexic. I simply meant that it might

> potentially in some cases be a small part of a very complex illness.

> felicity

>

>

>

>> Felicity,

>>

>> Trust me no one " become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

>> because sex is scary or freaks them out. "

>>

>> It is about CONTROL.

>>

>> A " low sex drive " is common when someone is anorexic.

>>

>> She should be seeking help from a pro.

>>

>> Respectfully,

>>

>> .

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>> Felicity wrote:

>> what do you mean never?

>> never at all?

>> do you like kissing and cuddling?

>> did you think boys were cute in high school?

>> are there movie stars that make you feel hot?

>>

>> sometimes when people are freaked out about something they think

>> " never " and

>> " always " and it's not really true, just your mind amplifying the

>> problem

>>

>> how long have you been anorexic?

>> the reason I ask that is wondering if it is physical or psychological

>> not that any specific answer would tell if it were physical or

>> psychological

>> but how long has your body been low energy, low hormones etc?

>> so that would be a physical reason for low sex drive

>> sometimes people might become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

>> because sex is scary or freaks them out

>>

>> the only scary thing about sex is that it is very very intimate

>> if intimacy freaks you out, sex might

>> how are you and your finance with intimacy?

>> by which i mean sharing deep dark feelings or showing your

>> embarrassing parts of yourselves

>> or being able to tell the truth about things -- like i am or am not

>> in the mood to talk/cuddle/do anything you expect me to do

>>

>> you don't even have to love sexual satisfaction or be in the mood for

>> your own satisfaction to enjoy sex

>> it can just be a very big cuddle, a way of being close and sharing a

>> very intimate activity

>> it makes feeling close to someone even that much better

>> like if you enjoy a really good date, or a really good talk with your

>> boyfriend

>> this is the same idea

>> only it has a special way of making you feel very, very close with

>> that other person

>>

>>

>> there is nothing in the world wrong with having a low sex drive if it

>> is the real you

>> some people are high, some low

>>

>> you just need to sort it out

>> is it physical?

>> psychological?

>> intimacy issues?

>> or is it just the way you are

>>

>> according the " the pathway " aka " the solution " food obsessions

>> (or any obsession -- spending money, alcohol, --

>> joke--) is partly about not knowing how to be intimate with ourselves

>> which means really accept ourselves just the way we are

>>

>> once we can be intimate with ourselves we can be intimate with others

>>

>> fyi -- sex is really lots of fun:)

>>

>>

>>

>>

>> > I've NEVER had a sex drive though

>> >

>> > n wrote: Yes - regular pre-

>> > wedding stress, increased further due to expectations of

>> > the honeymoon, and losing your virginity

>> > n

>> >

>> > At 08:34 AM 4/29/2006, you wrote:

>> > >Tara

>> > >worrying about your sex drive could partly be pre-wedding stress.

>> > >felicity

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

[Guest guest]

My gyno tried to get me into a specialist, but they only deal w/ adolescents. My

family Dr. sent me to a psychiatrist who talked to me for 5 min. and put me on

antidepressents. The other therapist just tried to have me do yoga and told me

how she didn't eat and drank diet coke to keep her going....? It has kind of

soured me on the whole therapist thing.

ORourke wrote: Felicity,

Trust me no one " become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or because sex is

scary or freaks them out. "

It is about CONTROL.

A " low sex drive " is common when someone is anorexic.

She should be seeking help from a pro.

Respectfully,

.

Felicity wrote:

what do you mean never?

never at all?

do you like kissing and cuddling?

did you think boys were cute in high school?

are there movie stars that make you feel hot?

sometimes when people are freaked out about something they think

" never " and

" always " and it's not really true, just your mind amplifying the problem

how long have you been anorexic?

the reason I ask that is wondering if it is physical or psychological

not that any specific answer would tell if it were physical or

psychological

but how long has your body been low energy, low hormones etc?

so that would be a physical reason for low sex drive

sometimes people might become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

because sex is scary or freaks them out

the only scary thing about sex is that it is very very intimate

if intimacy freaks you out, sex might

how are you and your finance with intimacy?

by which i mean sharing deep dark feelings or showing your

embarrassing parts of yourselves

or being able to tell the truth about things -- like i am or am not

in the mood to talk/cuddle/do anything you expect me to do

you don't even have to love sexual satisfaction or be in the mood for

your own satisfaction to enjoy sex

it can just be a very big cuddle, a way of being close and sharing a

very intimate activity

it makes feeling close to someone even that much better

like if you enjoy a really good date, or a really good talk with your

boyfriend

this is the same idea

only it has a special way of making you feel very, very close with

that other person

there is nothing in the world wrong with having a low sex drive if it

is the real you

some people are high, some low

you just need to sort it out

is it physical?

psychological?

intimacy issues?

or is it just the way you are

according the " the pathway " aka " the solution " food obsessions

(or any obsession -- spending money, alcohol, --

joke--) is partly about not knowing how to be intimate with ourselves

which means really accept ourselves just the way we are

once we can be intimate with ourselves we can be intimate with others

fyi -- sex is really lots of fun:)

> I've NEVER had a sex drive though

>

> n wrote: Yes - regular pre-

> wedding stress, increased further due to expectations of

> the honeymoon, and losing your virginity

> n

>

> At 08:34 AM 4/29/2006, you wrote:

> >Tara

> >worrying about your sex drive could partly be pre-wedding stress.

> >felicity

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Man, where do you live ? You seem like the kind of person I'd love to

have counsel me! :-)

ORourke wrote: I'm sorry, Felicity, if I

came across harsh.

I know you didn't mean any harm.

But trust me, it is not part of the problem.

I have 2.5 decades of experience and I counsel four anorexic women.

It is an awful psychological disease.

You are a good person Felicity. For obvious reasons, anorexia is a sensitive

subject for me.

I'm a sophisticated 47 year old woman starting a new company; raising a 15 yr

old son; relaunching a high tech client; yet I was in " cardiac arrest " in

London.

My poor father is watching me for the next several weeks. I feel like an

idiot. I can see the sadness in his eyes.

I'm so angry, so frustrated, so confused. My partners are concerned.

Thank God my Brain is strong.

I still know how to relaunch a company; start a new company; it energizes me.

:-)

BUT physicially I am not strong. I'm so cross with myself. I'm an

intelligent person. I should know better.

Felicity wrote:

I'm sorry if it sounding like I was saying this is the whole reason a

person would become anorexic. I simply meant that it might

potentially in some cases be a small part of a very complex illness.

felicity

> Felicity,

>

> Trust me no one " become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

> because sex is scary or freaks them out. "

>

> It is about CONTROL.

>

> A " low sex drive " is common when someone is anorexic.

>

> She should be seeking help from a pro.

>

> Respectfully,

>

> .

>

>

>

>

>

> Felicity wrote:

> what do you mean never?

> never at all?

> do you like kissing and cuddling?

> did you think boys were cute in high school?

> are there movie stars that make you feel hot?

>

> sometimes when people are freaked out about something they think

> " never " and

> " always " and it's not really true, just your mind amplifying the

> problem

>

> how long have you been anorexic?

> the reason I ask that is wondering if it is physical or psychological

> not that any specific answer would tell if it were physical or

> psychological

> but how long has your body been low energy, low hormones etc?

> so that would be a physical reason for low sex drive

> sometimes people might become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

> because sex is scary or freaks them out

>

> the only scary thing about sex is that it is very very intimate

> if intimacy freaks you out, sex might

> how are you and your finance with intimacy?

> by which i mean sharing deep dark feelings or showing your

> embarrassing parts of yourselves

> or being able to tell the truth about things -- like i am or am not

> in the mood to talk/cuddle/do anything you expect me to do

>

> you don't even have to love sexual satisfaction or be in the mood for

> your own satisfaction to enjoy sex

> it can just be a very big cuddle, a way of being close and sharing a

> very intimate activity

> it makes feeling close to someone even that much better

> like if you enjoy a really good date, or a really good talk with your

> boyfriend

> this is the same idea

> only it has a special way of making you feel very, very close with

> that other person

>

>

> there is nothing in the world wrong with having a low sex drive if it

> is the real you

> some people are high, some low

>

> you just need to sort it out

> is it physical?

> psychological?

> intimacy issues?

> or is it just the way you are

>

> according the " the pathway " aka " the solution " food obsessions

> (or any obsession -- spending money, alcohol, --

> joke--) is partly about not knowing how to be intimate with ourselves

> which means really accept ourselves just the way we are

>

> once we can be intimate with ourselves we can be intimate with others

>

> fyi -- sex is really lots of fun:)

>

>

>

>

> > I've NEVER had a sex drive though

> >

> > n wrote: Yes - regular pre-

> > wedding stress, increased further due to expectations of

> > the honeymoon, and losing your virginity

> > n

> >

> > At 08:34 AM 4/29/2006, you wrote:

> > >Tara

> > >worrying about your sex drive could partly be pre-wedding stress.

> > >felicity

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

WOW... Um yeah I would have to say that those experiences would definitely

turn you off to a therapist... Buuuttt... it could never hurt to try to look

into one again, but only when you are ready

Re: Re: embarassing question --

Felicity

> My gyno tried to get me into a specialist, but they only deal w/

> adolescents. My family Dr. sent me to a psychiatrist who talked to me for

> 5 min. and put me on antidepressents. The other therapist just tried to

> have me do yoga and told me how she didn't eat and drank diet coke to keep

> her going....? It has kind of soured me on the whole therapist thing.

>

> ORourke wrote: Felicity,

>

> Trust me no one " become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or because sex is

> scary or freaks them out. "

>

> It is about CONTROL.

>

> A " low sex drive " is common when someone is anorexic.

>

> She should be seeking help from a pro.

>

> Respectfully,

>

> .

>

>

>

>

>

> Felicity wrote:

> what do you mean never?

> never at all?

> do you like kissing and cuddling?

> did you think boys were cute in high school?

> are there movie stars that make you feel hot?

>

> sometimes when people are freaked out about something they think

> " never " and

> " always " and it's not really true, just your mind amplifying the problem

>

> how long have you been anorexic?

> the reason I ask that is wondering if it is physical or psychological

> not that any specific answer would tell if it were physical or

> psychological

> but how long has your body been low energy, low hormones etc?

> so that would be a physical reason for low sex drive

> sometimes people might become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

> because sex is scary or freaks them out

>

> the only scary thing about sex is that it is very very intimate

> if intimacy freaks you out, sex might

> how are you and your finance with intimacy?

> by which i mean sharing deep dark feelings or showing your

> embarrassing parts of yourselves

> or being able to tell the truth about things -- like i am or am not

> in the mood to talk/cuddle/do anything you expect me to do

>

> you don't even have to love sexual satisfaction or be in the mood for

> your own satisfaction to enjoy sex

> it can just be a very big cuddle, a way of being close and sharing a

> very intimate activity

> it makes feeling close to someone even that much better

> like if you enjoy a really good date, or a really good talk with your

> boyfriend

> this is the same idea

> only it has a special way of making you feel very, very close with

> that other person

>

>

> there is nothing in the world wrong with having a low sex drive if it

> is the real you

> some people are high, some low

>

> you just need to sort it out

> is it physical?

> psychological?

> intimacy issues?

> or is it just the way you are

>

> according the " the pathway " aka " the solution " food obsessions

> (or any obsession -- spending money, alcohol, --

> joke--) is partly about not knowing how to be intimate with ourselves

> which means really accept ourselves just the way we are

>

> once we can be intimate with ourselves we can be intimate with others

>

> fyi -- sex is really lots of fun:)

>

>

>

>

>> I've NEVER had a sex drive though

>>

>> n wrote: Yes - regular pre-

>> wedding stress, increased further due to expectations of

>> the honeymoon, and losing your virginity

>> n

>>

>> At 08:34 AM 4/29/2006, you wrote:

>> >Tara

>> >worrying about your sex drive could partly be pre-wedding stress.

>> >felicity

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

[Guest guest]

I do feel better. I didn't think I had a problem. It just happened.

I'm " allowed " to walk today -- to the end of the street, around the cul de sac

and back. AND then my father has to take my vital signs and we email the info

to the doctors. I feel like an idiot.

If all goes well, they are going to allow me to golf 9 holes on Tuesday, which

is what I am truly hoping for. It is killing me watching everyone golf by my

home. I luv the sound of the club hitting the ball. I can even tell my father

where the ball is going to go and how they hit it. He thinks I am obsessed. He

is correct btw; but I don't tell him that.

I need to rest. I only seem to sleep and eat now. It is depressing. I'm on

an emotional roller coaster ride. I will get better. I have to.

.

E wrote:

Oh... I hope you start feeling better!!!! I'm very impressed with

everything you are doing, just make sure you keep taking care of yourself!

Re: Re: embarassing question --

Felicity

> I'm sorry, Felicity, if I came across harsh.

>

> I know you didn't mean any harm.

>

> But trust me, it is not part of the problem.

>

> I have 2.5 decades of experience and I counsel four anorexic women.

>

> It is an awful psychological disease.

>

> You are a good person Felicity. For obvious reasons, anorexia is a

> sensitive subject for me.

>

> I'm a sophisticated 47 year old woman starting a new company; raising a

> 15 yr old son; relaunching a high tech client; yet I was in " cardiac

> arrest " in London.

>

> My poor father is watching me for the next several weeks. I feel like an

> idiot. I can see the sadness in his eyes.

>

> I'm so angry, so frustrated, so confused. My partners are concerned.

>

> Thank God my Brain is strong.

>

> I still know how to relaunch a company; start a new company; it energizes

> me. :-)

>

> BUT physicially I am not strong. I'm so cross with myself. I'm an

> intelligent person. I should know better.

>

>

> Felicity wrote:

>

> I'm sorry if it sounding like I was saying this is the whole reason a

> person would become anorexic. I simply meant that it might

> potentially in some cases be a small part of a very complex illness.

> felicity

>

>

>

>> Felicity,

>>

>> Trust me no one " become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

>> because sex is scary or freaks them out. "

>>

>> It is about CONTROL.

>>

>> A " low sex drive " is common when someone is anorexic.

>>

>> She should be seeking help from a pro.

>>

>> Respectfully,

>>

>> .

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>> Felicity wrote:

>> what do you mean never?

>> never at all?

>> do you like kissing and cuddling?

>> did you think boys were cute in high school?

>> are there movie stars that make you feel hot?

>>

>> sometimes when people are freaked out about something they think

>> " never " and

>> " always " and it's not really true, just your mind amplifying the

>> problem

>>

>> how long have you been anorexic?

>> the reason I ask that is wondering if it is physical or psychological

>> not that any specific answer would tell if it were physical or

>> psychological

>> but how long has your body been low energy, low hormones etc?

>> so that would be a physical reason for low sex drive

>> sometimes people might become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

>> because sex is scary or freaks them out

>>

>> the only scary thing about sex is that it is very very intimate

>> if intimacy freaks you out, sex might

>> how are you and your finance with intimacy?

>> by which i mean sharing deep dark feelings or showing your

>> embarrassing parts of yourselves

>> or being able to tell the truth about things -- like i am or am not

>> in the mood to talk/cuddle/do anything you expect me to do

>>

>> you don't even have to love sexual satisfaction or be in the mood for

>> your own satisfaction to enjoy sex

>> it can just be a very big cuddle, a way of being close and sharing a

>> very intimate activity

>> it makes feeling close to someone even that much better

>> like if you enjoy a really good date, or a really good talk with your

>> boyfriend

>> this is the same idea

>> only it has a special way of making you feel very, very close with

>> that other person

>>

>>

>> there is nothing in the world wrong with having a low sex drive if it

>> is the real you

>> some people are high, some low

>>

>> you just need to sort it out

>> is it physical?

>> psychological?

>> intimacy issues?

>> or is it just the way you are

>>

>> according the " the pathway " aka " the solution " food obsessions

>> (or any obsession -- spending money, alcohol, --

>> joke--) is partly about not knowing how to be intimate with ourselves

>> which means really accept ourselves just the way we are

>>

>> once we can be intimate with ourselves we can be intimate with others

>>

>> fyi -- sex is really lots of fun:)

>>

>>

>>

>>

>> > I've NEVER had a sex drive though

>> >

>> > n wrote: Yes - regular pre-

>> > wedding stress, increased further due to expectations of

>> > the honeymoon, and losing your virginity

>> > n

>> >

>> > At 08:34 AM 4/29/2006, you wrote:

>> > >Tara

>> > >worrying about your sex drive could partly be pre-wedding stress.

>> > >felicity

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

[Guest guest]

I do feel better. I didn't think I had a problem. It just happened.

I'm " allowed " to walk today -- to the end of the street, around the cul de sac

and back. AND then my father has to take my vital signs and we email the info

to the doctors. I feel like an idiot.

If all goes well, they are going to allow me to golf 9 holes on Tuesday, which

is what I am truly hoping for. It is killing me watching everyone golf by my

home. I luv the sound of the club hitting the ball. I can even tell my father

where the ball is going to go and how they hit it. He thinks I am obsessed. He

is correct btw; but I don't tell him that.

I need to rest. I only seem to sleep and eat now. It is depressing. I'm on

an emotional roller coaster ride. I will get better. I have to.

.

E wrote:

Oh... I hope you start feeling better!!!! I'm very impressed with

everything you are doing, just make sure you keep taking care of yourself!

Re: Re: embarassing question --

Felicity

> I'm sorry, Felicity, if I came across harsh.

>

> I know you didn't mean any harm.

>

> But trust me, it is not part of the problem.

>

> I have 2.5 decades of experience and I counsel four anorexic women.

>

> It is an awful psychological disease.

>

> You are a good person Felicity. For obvious reasons, anorexia is a

> sensitive subject for me.

>

> I'm a sophisticated 47 year old woman starting a new company; raising a

> 15 yr old son; relaunching a high tech client; yet I was in " cardiac

> arrest " in London.

>

> My poor father is watching me for the next several weeks. I feel like an

> idiot. I can see the sadness in his eyes.

>

> I'm so angry, so frustrated, so confused. My partners are concerned.

>

> Thank God my Brain is strong.

>

> I still know how to relaunch a company; start a new company; it energizes

> me. :-)

>

> BUT physicially I am not strong. I'm so cross with myself. I'm an

> intelligent person. I should know better.

>

>

> Felicity wrote:

>

> I'm sorry if it sounding like I was saying this is the whole reason a

> person would become anorexic. I simply meant that it might

> potentially in some cases be a small part of a very complex illness.

> felicity

>

>

>

>> Felicity,

>>

>> Trust me no one " become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

>> because sex is scary or freaks them out. "

>>

>> It is about CONTROL.

>>

>> A " low sex drive " is common when someone is anorexic.

>>

>> She should be seeking help from a pro.

>>

>> Respectfully,

>>

>> .

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>> Felicity wrote:

>> what do you mean never?

>> never at all?

>> do you like kissing and cuddling?

>> did you think boys were cute in high school?

>> are there movie stars that make you feel hot?

>>

>> sometimes when people are freaked out about something they think

>> " never " and

>> " always " and it's not really true, just your mind amplifying the

>> problem

>>

>> how long have you been anorexic?

>> the reason I ask that is wondering if it is physical or psychological

>> not that any specific answer would tell if it were physical or

>> psychological

>> but how long has your body been low energy, low hormones etc?

>> so that would be a physical reason for low sex drive

>> sometimes people might become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

>> because sex is scary or freaks them out

>>

>> the only scary thing about sex is that it is very very intimate

>> if intimacy freaks you out, sex might

>> how are you and your finance with intimacy?

>> by which i mean sharing deep dark feelings or showing your

>> embarrassing parts of yourselves

>> or being able to tell the truth about things -- like i am or am not

>> in the mood to talk/cuddle/do anything you expect me to do

>>

>> you don't even have to love sexual satisfaction or be in the mood for

>> your own satisfaction to enjoy sex

>> it can just be a very big cuddle, a way of being close and sharing a

>> very intimate activity

>> it makes feeling close to someone even that much better

>> like if you enjoy a really good date, or a really good talk with your

>> boyfriend

>> this is the same idea

>> only it has a special way of making you feel very, very close with

>> that other person

>>

>>

>> there is nothing in the world wrong with having a low sex drive if it

>> is the real you

>> some people are high, some low

>>

>> you just need to sort it out

>> is it physical?

>> psychological?

>> intimacy issues?

>> or is it just the way you are

>>

>> according the " the pathway " aka " the solution " food obsessions

>> (or any obsession -- spending money, alcohol, --

>> joke--) is partly about not knowing how to be intimate with ourselves

>> which means really accept ourselves just the way we are

>>

>> once we can be intimate with ourselves we can be intimate with others

>>

>> fyi -- sex is really lots of fun:)

>>

>>

>>

>>

>> > I've NEVER had a sex drive though

>> >

>> > n wrote: Yes - regular pre-

>> > wedding stress, increased further due to expectations of

>> > the honeymoon, and losing your virginity

>> > n

>> >

>> > At 08:34 AM 4/29/2006, you wrote:

>> > >Tara

>> > >worrying about your sex drive could partly be pre-wedding stress.

>> > >felicity

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >

>> >