Re: No action taken in alleged assault

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> http://www.sun-herald.com/NewsArchive2/101206/tp7ew11.htm?> date=101206 & story=tp7ew11.htm> > 10/12/06> > No action taken in alleged assault> The mother told investigators that she and her husband were called > to the school Friday afternoon because of her son's behavior. She > gave the investigator a copy of a report that stated the boy was out > of control, screaming, using profanities, threatening violence and > kicking and hitting staff members. He was held against a wall by > several staff members until he calmed down.> > The boy is in a class for emotionally handicapped children due to > him having attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, bipolar/manic > depressive disorder and Asperger's Syndrome, a mild form of autism, > according to his mother, Loveless.

When a school has children who they know are prone to overstimulation meltdowns they should have a plan of action that they could implement that when used does not cause harm. The school and the adults involved proved that they are incompetent and all parents of children in that school, no matter the classes their children are in should be alarmed.

> Loveless took her son out of the school and enrolled him at > Charlotte Harbor Center.

Smart move.

Kim

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No action taken in alleged assault

The mother told investigators that she and her husband were called

to the school Friday afternoon because of her son's behavior. She

gave the investigator a copy of a report that stated the boy was out

of control, screaming, using profanities, threatening violence and

kicking and hitting staff members. He was held against a wall by

several staff members until he calmed down.

The boy is in a class for emotionally handicapped children due to

him having attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, bipolar/manic

depressive disorder and Asperger's Syndrome, a mild form of autism,

according to his mother, Loveless.

Kim wrote: " When a school has children who they know are prone to

overstimulation meltdowns they should have a plan of action that

they could implement that when used does not cause harm. The school

and the adults involved proved that they are incompetent and all

parents of children in that school, no matter the classes their

children are in should be alarmed. "

That's a sad reality in many school boards and schools across

America and Canada, Kim. Instead of working WITH the student and

the student's family to devise and implement strategies that will

PREVENT the meltdowns in the first place, the focus is on how to

restrain them after the meltdown has hit full force.

It makes so much more sense to be PRO-ACTIVE rather than REACTIVE

but it's amazing how many educators and administrators do not

understand this much better alternative.

Idiots are in charge of the chidren!

Raven

[Guest guest]

The article reported: http://www.sun-

herald.com/NewsArchive2/101206/tp7ew11.htm?

date=101206 & story=tp7ew11.htm

No action taken in alleged assault

The mother told investigators that she and her husband were called

to the school Friday afternoon because of her son's behavior. She

gave the investigator a copy of a report that stated the boy was out

of control, screaming, using profanities, threatening violence and

kicking and hitting staff members. He was held against a wall by

several staff members until he calmed down.

The boy is in a class for emotionally handicapped children due to

him having attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, bipolar/manic

depressive disorder and Asperger's Syndrome, a mild form of autism,

according to his mother, Loveless.

Kim wrote: " When a school has children who they know are prone to

overstimulation meltdowns they should have a plan of action that

they could implement that when used does not cause harm. The school

and the adults involved proved that they are incompetent and all

parents of children in that school, no matter the classes their

children are in should be alarmed. "

That's a sad reality in many school boards and schools across

America and Canada, Kim. Instead of working WITH the student and

the student's family to devise and implement strategies that will

PREVENT the meltdowns in the first place, the focus is on how to

restrain them after the meltdown has hit full force.

It makes so much more sense to be PRO-ACTIVE rather than REACTIVE

but it's amazing how many educators and administrators do not

understand this much better alternative.

Idiots are in charge of the chidren!

Raven

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" When a school has children who they know are prone to

> overstimulation meltdowns they should have a plan of action that

> they could implement that when used does not cause harm. The school

> and the adults involved proved that they are incompetent and all

> parents of children in that school, no matter the classes their

> children are in should be alarmed. "

>

> That's a sad reality in many school boards and schools across

> America and Canada, Kim. Instead of working WITH the student and

> the student's family to devise and implement strategies that will

> PREVENT the meltdowns in the first place, the focus is on how to

> restrain them after the meltdown has hit full force.

>

> It makes so much more sense to be PRO-ACTIVE rather than REACTIVE

> but it's amazing how many educators and administrators do not

> understand this much better alternative.

>

> Idiots are in charge of the chidren!

>

> Raven

>

I see your point and am myself looking for ways to prevent meltdowns at

my home with my son. I am in the beginning stages of this process but

having had them for so long myself, I've just learned, with the help of

medication, how to prevent my own. I find it very hard to make my other

children understand and work on the behaviors that would prevent

blowouts. They have bad days too and act up accordingly, which impacts

how the sibs relate and react to one another. The moods of my bipolar

husband is just another variable that I must factor into the equation.

Each situation is unique, but any suggestions are more than welcome.

Kim

[Guest guest]

" When a school has children who they know are prone to

> overstimulation meltdowns they should have a plan of action that

> they could implement that when used does not cause harm. The school

> and the adults involved proved that they are incompetent and all

> parents of children in that school, no matter the classes their

> children are in should be alarmed. "

>

> That's a sad reality in many school boards and schools across

> America and Canada, Kim. Instead of working WITH the student and

> the student's family to devise and implement strategies that will

> PREVENT the meltdowns in the first place, the focus is on how to

> restrain them after the meltdown has hit full force.

>

> It makes so much more sense to be PRO-ACTIVE rather than REACTIVE

> but it's amazing how many educators and administrators do not

> understand this much better alternative.

>

> Idiots are in charge of the chidren!

>

> Raven

>

I see your point and am myself looking for ways to prevent meltdowns at

my home with my son. I am in the beginning stages of this process but

having had them for so long myself, I've just learned, with the help of

medication, how to prevent my own. I find it very hard to make my other

children understand and work on the behaviors that would prevent

blowouts. They have bad days too and act up accordingly, which impacts

how the sibs relate and react to one another. The moods of my bipolar

husband is just another variable that I must factor into the equation.

Each situation is unique, but any suggestions are more than welcome.

Kim

[Guest guest]

If your childen witness your bipolar husband's outbursts, they will

resent you if you do not allow them to have their own outbursts.

Meltdowns are a part of autism. They are a reaction to external

stimuli. Get rid of the external stimuli and there will be fewer

meltdowns.

You might want to suggest your husband take his meds so his meltdowns

do not affect the children. Your next step would be to monitor your

children's meltdowns and try to figure out what caused them.

Then, see if there is anything you can do to prevent them in the

future by getting rid of the stressors that caused them.

This should go a long way toward not-needing meds for them.

Tom

Administrator

I see your point and am myself looking for ways to prevent meltdowns at

my home with my son. I am in the beginning stages of this process but

having had them for so long myself, I've just learned, with the help of

medication, how to prevent my own. I find it very hard to make my other

children understand and work on the behaviors that would prevent

blowouts. They have bad days too and act up accordingly, which impacts

how the sibs relate and react to one another. The moods of my bipolar

husband is just another variable that I must factor into the equation.

Each situation is unique, but any suggestions are more than welcome.

Kim

[Guest guest]

Kim wrote: " I see your point and am myself looking for ways to

prevent meltdowns at my home with my son. I am in the beginning

stages of this process but having had them for so long myself, I've

just learned, with the help of medication, how to prevent my own. I

find it very hard to make my other children understand and work on

the behaviors that would prevent blowouts. They have bad days too

and act up accordingly, which impacts how the sibs relate and react

to one another. The moods of my bipolar husband is just another

variable that I must factor into the equation. Each situation is

unique, but any suggestions are more than welcome. "

I agree that every situation is unique, but I still believe that for

any child -- AS or NT -- pro-active strategies always beat reactive

techniques.

Helping your children be aware of their body's warning signs will

also help prevent meltdowns and upsets.

Raven

[Guest guest]

Kim wrote: " I see your point and am myself looking for ways to

prevent meltdowns at my home with my son. I am in the beginning

stages of this process but having had them for so long myself, I've

just learned, with the help of medication, how to prevent my own. I

find it very hard to make my other children understand and work on

the behaviors that would prevent blowouts. They have bad days too

and act up accordingly, which impacts how the sibs relate and react

to one another. The moods of my bipolar husband is just another

variable that I must factor into the equation. Each situation is

unique, but any suggestions are more than welcome. "

I agree that every situation is unique, but I still believe that for

any child -- AS or NT -- pro-active strategies always beat reactive

techniques.

Helping your children be aware of their body's warning signs will

also help prevent meltdowns and upsets.

Raven

[Guest guest]

>

> If your childen witness your bipolar husband's outbursts...

His actions are about obsessing, repetative negative thoughts, long

bouts of sleeping (depression) and over spending then regret. My past

behaviors are what caused the " post traumatic stress disorder " or so

their psychologist thinks. The smallest things would set me off and

even if I told them what my triggers were, such as everything in the

house out of place, they didn't understand the importance of preventing

them. It is getting somewhat better, so that if I tell them I'm on edge

because of the way the house looks, they help out with what they can.

> You might want to suggest your husband take his meds ..

He does and sought help through counseling as well. He is the one that

pleaded for me to get help, although I put it off until I became

suicidal.

> Your next step would be to monitor your

> children's meltdowns and try to figure out what caused them.

> Then, see if there is anything you can do to prevent them in the

> future by getting rid of the stressors that caused them.

I'm trying and learning all the time. Maybe I want to figure it out

faster than is possible.

> This should go a long way toward not-needing meds for them.

I'll be setting a meeting up with a very good counselor so the kids can

work one on one. They may or may not feel more comfortable talking

about the triggers. Couldn't hurt to try, right?

Kim

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That is one thing we must make an effort to do more often than we have

been lately and given my son's out of school suspension he got today,

we had better.

> Helping your children be aware of their body's warning signs will

> also help prevent meltdowns and upsets.

>

> Raven

>