10 yr old son

[Guest guest]

Hi,

I have been reading the posts here for a couple of weeks, I am so glad

I found this board.

My 10 yr old son has OCD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and

Depression. His OCD is very much about the compulsions, bad thoughts

running over and over in his mind. And the confessing every little

thing he's ever done wrong to me. He is worried he is going to hell

(for little things). He just has such negative thoughts, and low self

esteem. School is such a struggle. We have an IEP meeting next week.

He is on Buspar(Busiprone) and Risperdal. (Over the past 2 years, he

has tried lots of dif. medicines).

He is also in therapy, shich seems to be going okay.

Recently I have been trying some visualization therapy with him, to

try to get him to relax and control his breathing, does anyone have

any experience with this? Any book recommendations? (or cds?)

My heart is breaking that my son

s life is so hard for him, it's really hard to stay positive every

day. It seems like 1 step forward and 2 steps back.

I'm sure I am just tired tonight, so everything seems worse than

usual, just wondering if any other moms out there feel this way.

Thanks for listening!

R.

[Guest guest]

Oh yes, I feel the same. For me it comes in waves, I will get up and have a

day where I actually don't carry that big heavy weight around my heart, get

things accomplished, etc. and I think hey we are better and then it seems

boom something happens (can be even small thing) and triggers me back into

despair. Right now my son is doing better than he has in 5 months, playing

outside (his fear is storms and he stayed in for 4 months) happy, etc. but

then I just realized that after a year of therapy, on and off meds, I am

still back to where I started with discipline problems, attitudes, etc.

Another words, I calmed down his fears by taking off all stress out of his

life, his anxietys have reduced tremendously but not his discipline

struggles, staying on task, sleeping, etc. So like you said we are one step

forward and still 2 steps behind. It all takes time and patience. We just

have to enjoy the good for what it is and like my therapist keeps telling

me, take baby steps for little feet!!

Adele

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Sent: Sunday, October 15, 2006 10:51 PM

Subject: 10 yr old son

Hi,

I have been reading the posts here for a couple of weeks, I am so glad

I found this board.

My 10 yr old son has OCD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and

Depression. His OCD is very much about the compulsions, bad thoughts

running over and over in his mind. And the confessing every little

thing he's ever done wrong to me. He is worried he is going to hell

(for little things). He just has such negative thoughts, and low self

esteem. School is such a struggle. We have an IEP meeting next week.

He is on Buspar(Busiprone) and Risperdal. (Over the past 2 years, he

has tried lots of dif. medicines).

He is also in therapy, shich seems to be going okay.

Recently I have been trying some visualization therapy with him, to

try to get him to relax and control his breathing, does anyone have

any experience with this? Any book recommendations? (or cds?)

My heart is breaking that my son

s life is so hard for him, it's really hard to stay positive every

day. It seems like 1 step forward and 2 steps back.

I'm sure I am just tired tonight, so everything seems worse than

usual, just wondering if any other moms out there feel this way.

Thanks for listening!

R.

[Guest guest]

Hi R, welcome to the group! My OCDer is now 17, but it all began

for us back when he began 6th grade around age 11.5.

" 1 step forward, 2 steps back " - oh, a very familiar feeling! But

any step forward is progress, remember that.

This year my son began worrying with bad thoughts and his seem to

center around religion, is going through scrupulosity type OCD. I'm

sure he's worrying about going to hell too. When his OCD first

began, there were the physical rituals and compulsions; and right

now, those seem easier to deal with (for me) being visual than these

unseen/unknown thoughts he's dealing with. (He won't talk about

them, but then he wouldn't talk much about his OCD before either.)

Has your son tried any of the OCD meds yet? We only tried the

Celexa, he was on that for 2 grades and it helped. He's on no meds

now, wanted to come off and try " med free " and doesn't want to go

back on any, even with all he's dealing with now.

If you need any help re school issues, you'll get LOTS of

thoughts/experience from here. We didn't get an IEP for my son, but

did set up a 504 Plan for him to use with accommodations and

modifications for school and schoolwork. It really helped ease a

lot of stress re schoolwork and grades, but those were rough years!

He hasn't used the plan at all since beginning high school!

Well, gotta get to work but wanted to say " hi! "

single mom, 3 sons

, 17, with OCD, dysgraphia and Aspergers/autism (mild)

>

> Hi,

>

> I have been reading the posts here for a couple of weeks, I am so

glad

> I found this board.

> My 10 yr old son has OCD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and

> Depression. His OCD is very much about the compulsions, bad

thoughts

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks to everyone for the kind words! Today has been better, I think

I was just feeling tired yesterday so everything seemed to get to me a

little more than usual.

I have to say, this board has been great. Just looking over the old

posts has been very helpful. The latest thing is my son is in band,

and he just can't do the group band lessons (lots of sensory

issues...the noise drives him nuts), so they suggested he just do the

private lessons 2 times wk. It is horrible to try to get him to

practice. I don't think I even care if he plays an instrument...I just

don't want him to quit...

(tried soccer and karate, and couldn't handle it without lots of

meltdowns, so he quit those. Now he is worried if he quits band he'll

be a " quiter " ).

the other biggest issue is getting him to do homework...this is a

nightmare. Usually I try to break things down into 10 minute segments,

with something " fun " in between (looking up something of interest on

the internet, playing in the yard with the dogs...) He has math work

sheets that make him crazy. He gets so upset before he even

starts...ug. Any suggestions on homework would be appreciated!!!

thanks to everyone, I'm SO GLAD I FOUND THIS GROUP!

Rita

[Guest guest]

Thanks to everyone for the kind words! Today has been better, I think

I was just feeling tired yesterday so everything seemed to get to me a

little more than usual.

I have to say, this board has been great. Just looking over the old

posts has been very helpful. The latest thing is my son is in band,

and he just can't do the group band lessons (lots of sensory

issues...the noise drives him nuts), so they suggested he just do the

private lessons 2 times wk. It is horrible to try to get him to

practice. I don't think I even care if he plays an instrument...I just

don't want him to quit...

(tried soccer and karate, and couldn't handle it without lots of

meltdowns, so he quit those. Now he is worried if he quits band he'll

be a " quiter " ).

the other biggest issue is getting him to do homework...this is a

nightmare. Usually I try to break things down into 10 minute segments,

with something " fun " in between (looking up something of interest on

the internet, playing in the yard with the dogs...) He has math work

sheets that make him crazy. He gets so upset before he even

starts...ug. Any suggestions on homework would be appreciated!!!

thanks to everyone, I'm SO GLAD I FOUND THIS GROUP!

Rita