Re: almost 12 yr dd/ OCD and nagging( )

[Guest guest]

I was wondering if your son seems to lose the

interest after he aquires whatever it is he is stuck on. I have

found that my son is happy for a couple of days and then wham it is

something else...and it starts all over again. Good luck to you.

Hugs

Yes, most of the time once we give him what he wants or is searching for he

moves on to something else.

Sheree

[Guest guest]

Same thing here - drives me nuts!

Bonnie

>

> I was wondering if your son seems to lose the

> interest after he aquires whatever it is he is stuck on. I have

> found that my son is happy for a couple of days and then wham it is

> something else...and it starts all over again. Good luck to you.

> Hugs

>

>

> Yes, most of the time once we give him what he wants or is searching

for he

> moves on to something else.

>

> Sheree

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

" I was wondering if your son seems to lose the

interest after he aquires whatever it is he is stuck on. I have

found that my son is happy for a couple of days and then wham it is

something else...and it starts all over again. "

does that to...... he becomes obsessed with stuff this can last days to

months. And he won't do anything else but play with it if he has it. The one

toy he has always played with is his little men type things where he plays

fighting and shooting games. He has played with these army men things for years

continually if he is not doing other things. They are always spread out on the

bedroom floor, and gees help me if I or the dog knock them down.. (Aspergers in

him)

Have a nice weekend all I know I am, the kids are with their dads, the only

thing is won't take his meds up there unless I ring him and talk him

through it because it is " different " - this sometimes can take a good 1/2 hour

on the phone to get him to calm down and take them.

Cheers Jaxx (New Zealand)

[Guest guest]

Just wanted to say my 15-year-old has always been this way and we attributed it

to aspergers. Someone once described a person with AS/OCD/TS or Sensory

Integration Disorder as have 'perseverative disorder'. Every one of those things

involves getting stuck on things - whether it's a desire, a thought, a fear, a

movement or a sensation. And so many of these things are comorbid.

My son used to nag constantly about something then lose interest after he got

it. We'd have a pile of toys that were untouched until his younger brother and

sister came along. He does the same with skills - gets obsessed with a

particular activity until he's mastered it, then is bored and moves on. Very

frustrating - lately, we invested tons of money in wakeboard and snowboard

equipment because he was enamoured with the sports, then after about two seasons

of non-stop practise, he'd achieve his goals (quite proficiently) and have lost

interest. At the moment he's riding a $2000 dirt-jumping mountain bike (paid for

with his own money) every moment that he's not sleeping or at school. It's all

he talks about; all he thinks about. I have no doubt that once he's decided he's

mastered those bike challenges (and I shudder to think what they are - he is

miles away 'jumping' in the woods) then the bike will sit in the garage while he

takes up with another obsession.

I think it's all part of this 'inflexibility of the brain' that makes them get

so stuck on things.

IMHO!

kimz

Re: Re: almost 12 yr dd/ OCD and nagging( )

I was wondering if your son seems to lose the

interest after he aquires whatever it is he is stuck on. I have

found that my son is happy for a couple of days and then wham it is

something else...and it starts all over again. Good luck to you.

Hugs

Yes, most of the time once we give him what he wants or is searching for he

moves on to something else.

Sheree

[Guest guest]

Same here. My OCD son and OCD husband are identical in this way. It

has driven me crazy for many, many years - especially with my

husband, because he is the breadwinner, etc. If we bought everything

they thought was necessary (individually), we'd be living under a

bridge in a cardboard box. We all have things we get excited about

and feel we have to have, and then find out later it wasn't such a

good idea, but I think that incessant drive for item after item we

are seeing in them is different and IS probably OCD-driven.

>

> I was wondering if your son seems to lose the

> interest after he aquires whatever it is he is stuck on. I have

> found that my son is happy for a couple of days and then wham it

is

> something else...and it starts all over again. Good luck to you.

> Hugs

>

>

> Yes, most of the time once we give him what he wants or is

searching for he

> moves on to something else.

>

> Sheree

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Sounds very familiar. I think you are exactly right! My husband has

driven me crazy for years wanting to move (always somewhere different

though) about every year. I think his OCD is behind this too! I

finally got to the point that I would say, " Fine, move, but the kids

and I are staying here! "

>

> Just wanted to say my 15-year-old has always been this way and we

attributed it to aspergers. Someone once described a person with

AS/OCD/TS or Sensory Integration Disorder as have 'perseverative

disorder'. Every one of those things involves getting stuck on

things - whether it's a desire, a thought, a fear, a movement or a

sensation. And so many of these things are comorbid.

> My son used to nag constantly about something then lose interest

after he got it. We'd have a pile of toys that were untouched until

his younger brother and sister came along. He does the same with

skills - gets obsessed with a particular activity until he's mastered

it, then is bored and moves on. Very frustrating - lately, we

invested tons of money in wakeboard and snowboard equipment because

he was enamoured with the sports, then after about two seasons of non-

stop practise, he'd achieve his goals (quite proficiently) and have

lost interest. At the moment he's riding a $2000 dirt-jumping

mountain bike (paid for with his own money) every moment that he's

not sleeping or at school. It's all he talks about; all he thinks

about. I have no doubt that once he's decided he's mastered those

bike challenges (and I shudder to think what they are - he is miles

away 'jumping' in the woods) then the bike will sit in the garage

while he takes up with another obsession.

> I think it's all part of this 'inflexibility of the brain' that

makes them get so stuck on things.

> IMHO!

> kimz

> Re: Re: almost 12 yr dd/ OCD and

nagging( )

>

>

> I was wondering if your son seems to lose the

> interest after he aquires whatever it is he is stuck on. I have

> found that my son is happy for a couple of days and then wham it

is

> something else...and it starts all over again. Good luck to

you.

> Hugs

>

>

> Yes, most of the time once we give him what he wants or is

searching for he

> moves on to something else.

>

> Sheree

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I should add here that this was before I knew what OCD was and that

dh had OCD. He would become overbearing and absolutely, downright

mean with his attitude to move at times. I finally just got fed up

with explaining over and over and over again why it was not in the

best interest of the " family " to move. I couldn't understand why he

couldn't see this. However, the thoughts (whatever they were) in his

mind were that this was necessary. Now that he is on Zoloft -

started about a month ago, he has even said that his need to escape

has diminished considerably.

> >

> > Just wanted to say my 15-year-old has always been this way and we

> attributed it to aspergers. Someone once described a person with

> AS/OCD/TS or Sensory Integration Disorder as have 'perseverative

> disorder'. Every one of those things involves getting stuck on

> things - whether it's a desire, a thought, a fear, a movement or a

> sensation. And so many of these things are comorbid.

> > My son used to nag constantly about something then lose interest

> after he got it. We'd have a pile of toys that were untouched until

> his younger brother and sister came along. He does the same with

> skills - gets obsessed with a particular activity until he's

mastered

> it, then is bored and moves on. Very frustrating - lately, we

> invested tons of money in wakeboard and snowboard equipment because

> he was enamoured with the sports, then after about two seasons of

non-

> stop practise, he'd achieve his goals (quite proficiently) and have

> lost interest. At the moment he's riding a $2000 dirt-jumping

> mountain bike (paid for with his own money) every moment that he's

> not sleeping or at school. It's all he talks about; all he thinks

> about. I have no doubt that once he's decided he's mastered those

> bike challenges (and I shudder to think what they are - he is miles

> away 'jumping' in the woods) then the bike will sit in the garage

> while he takes up with another obsession.

> > I think it's all part of this 'inflexibility of the brain' that

> makes them get so stuck on things.

> > IMHO!

> > kimz

> > Re: Re: almost 12 yr dd/ OCD and

> nagging( )

> >

> >

> > I was wondering if your son seems to lose the

> > interest after he aquires whatever it is he is stuck on. I

have

> > found that my son is happy for a couple of days and then wham

it

> is

> > something else...and it starts all over again. Good luck to

> you.

> > Hugs

> >

> >

> > Yes, most of the time once we give him what he wants or is

> searching for he

> > moves on to something else.

> >

> > Sheree

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Okay, so that is really funny. I'd written a few days ago about my 15-year-old

having this issue. Never thought about dh. Then tonight on the way home from up

north we had a conversation about his chronic unhappiness. He has always

considered himself 'an accumulator' - saying he is not happy unless he is

acquiring something. Once he has it, he realizes it doesn't bring happiness, and

he's off on another pursuit. We were having an argument over selling the cottage

- an expensive venture he talked me into, discovered he was not a cottage

person, and now wants to sell (while I have become enamoured with the

lifestyle.) It is so frustrating. I told him he will go through life unhappy if

he thinks it will come from 'things' - which he knows - but doesn't seem to be

able to change. He does have so many of my AS/OCD son's characteristics. Does

make you wonder....

kimz

Re: almost 12 yr dd/ OCD and nagging( )

Same here. My OCD son and OCD husband are identical in this way. It

has driven me crazy for many, many years - especially with my

husband, because he is the breadwinner, etc. If we bought everything

they thought was necessary (individually), we'd be living under a

bridge in a cardboard box. We all have things we get excited about

and feel we have to have, and then find out later it wasn't such a

good idea, but I think that incessant drive for item after item we

are seeing in them is different and IS probably OCD-driven.

>

> I was wondering if your son seems to lose the

> interest after he aquires whatever it is he is stuck on. I have

> found that my son is happy for a couple of days and then wham it

is

> something else...and it starts all over again. Good luck to you.

> Hugs

>

>

> Yes, most of the time once we give him what he wants or is

searching for he

> moves on to something else.

>

> Sheree

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Yes, yes, yes......I know exactly what you mean. As I mentioned in

another post, my dh just finally started Zoloft (finally got the

courage to get an evaluation - diagnosed with OCD - well hidden for

many years and he would never believe me that he had it because he

thought of the handwashers and would never read the stuff I read in

helping our son, but he has finally been diagnosed - classic checking

OCDer - our oldest getting ready for college set him off so bad, he

couldn't stand it anymore, but he still didn't believe he would be

diagnosed with OCD - just didn't believe me for some reason), and I

have already begun to see a more calm contentment in him than I have

ever seen before. I hope it lasts...we'll see.

> >

> > I was wondering if your son seems to lose the

> > interest after he aquires whatever it is he is stuck on. I

have

> > found that my son is happy for a couple of days and then wham

it

> is

> > something else...and it starts all over again. Good luck to

you.

> > Hugs

> >

> >

> > Yes, most of the time once we give him what he wants or is

> searching for he

> > moves on to something else.

> >

> > Sheree

> >

> >

> >