2 year old behavior problems

August 10, 2006

Hi all! I am new to this group, and I'm the mother of a 2-year old,

Liam who is non-verbal autistic. I've read some of the older posts on

here, and noticed a lot of you have older children. Of the ones whose

children have aggression/behavior problems now, how were that at

younger ages? I am terrified that he will not get past this stage he

is at now. He frequently throws things, breaks things, knocks things

over, hits me (and other people though he prefers to hit me

apparently lol). We are trying to get him into a behavior program

now, hopefully that will help some. Also, he absolutely listens to

NOTHING that I say. He would run into the road if I let him, he

doesn't understand danger at all. He is pretty smart in most areas,

but he just doesn't understand (or care or something) about things

hurting him. He almost never sits still, and is constantly trying to

climb tables, chairs, anything he sees. He screams and throws things

if he gets upset (like if I say, Liam, do you want to taste this

____ ) He is absolutely driving me and my husband crazy. We know he

can't help it, and we are constantly reading books and websites and

trying different techniques, but he is SO SO determined to do what HE

wants to do, we just can't get through to him.

Okay, sorry, just needed to get all that out I guess. We have no

support from anyone, our families are in denial about the whole

thing. If I bring it up at all, they say " oh, that's just how boys

are, you just don't know " (I have a 3-year old who acts just fine,

thank you). I feel like they all think I'm just being a crybaby about

my son acting up (they constantly insinuate he just needs more

discipline). On top of all that, I stay home with him and we can't

hardly go out in public anymore because of the way he acts. If he

can't just run off, he screams very very loudly and everyone looks at

me like 'why don't you just leave'? But I can't always just leave, I

have to buy groceries sometime!! One time he threw his plate against

the wall and the lady at the table behind us told me we need to call

supernanny. Haha...I'm all for it if she thinks she can help!

Well, if anyone has any advice for me, I am all ears. The only thing

I am trying right now is redirection, but it is really not working at

all, all it does is put me in his path tempting him to hit me. He can

climb out of playpens and cribs, so how can I keep him from

continuing to break and throw things when he is angry? I would

definately appreciate anyone's comments or suggestions. Thanks. ~LC

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