Re: 2 year old behavior problems

[Guest guest]

Hi there!

My son is limited verbally & autistic.He was diagnosed at 3yrs but I knew

something wasn't right way before that.As for behaviors he was always active!

Climbing everything! We always had to watch him and he was very unaware of

danger(cars etc)He would run off in a minute,going to the park was another

potential danger he just was unaware of safety(hanging off a step etc)he used to

hit (hard)and it was so unpredictable just when or why he would do it.

You'd be laying there with him as he's going to sleep and Wham! He'd slap you

dead in your face.He used to bite quite a bit too,we literally had to watch our

ankles because he'd get you!He was very adversive to his therapy

sessions(DIR/Floortime)and thank God his therapist was extremely patient and

more tenacious than he was! I'd say about 6mo's after he started with her then

this behavior went away. He started having these " rages " where he would just be

impulsive,agressive,destructive(pulling over furniture,tv's)around age 8,it got

so bad I had to take him out of school.

His target has always been me(single parent)so I've been on the receiving end of

his episodes(scratching,pinching,biting) then he became self injurous.It was so

bad that like you,I could hardly go anywhere because of it.My family empathised

but my mother especially didn't " get it " till one day he had a meltdown with

her..then she understood.By that time I'd tried several meds but none really did

anything other than agrivate the situation and make him gain weight.He's on

Buspirone and I supplement with vitamins.His behaviors have pretty much ceased

every now and then he may have a long and intense " rage " episode but not daily

like it was before.I have to say that this past year has been the hardest . No

one can truely understand unless they've lived it 24/7 themselves.

I think at whatever age we start to see these behaviors it's best to definately

get on top of it because it can potentially get worse.He may be very resistant

to early intervention at first but just stick with it and learn the techniques

that work during his sessions so that you can carry that over at home.Most

importantly listen to your intuition more than anything.I'm not really a fan of

behavioral programs but we did DIR/floortime and it really worked great.. like

everything we as parents have to try everything within reason for our kids.

Stacey

From: greysonliam <greysonliam@...>

Date: 2006/08/10 Thu AM 12:23:52 CDT

autism

Subject: 2 year old behavior problems

Hi all! I am new to this group, and I'm the mother of a 2-year old,

Liam who is non-verbal autistic. I've read some of the older posts on

here, and noticed a lot of you have older children. Of the ones whose

children have aggression/behavior problems now, how were that at

younger ages? I am terrified that he will not get past this stage he

is at now. He frequently throws things, breaks things, knocks things

over, hits me (and other people though he prefers to hit me

apparently lol). We are trying to get him into a behavior program

now, hopefully that will help some. Also, he absolutely listens to

NOTHING that I say. He would run into the road if I let him, he

doesn't understand danger at all. He is pretty smart in most areas,

but he just doesn't understand (or care or something) about things

hurting him. He almost never sits still, and is constantly trying to

climb tables, chairs, anything he sees. He screams and throws things

if he gets upset (like if I say, Liam, do you want to taste this

____ ) He is absolutely driving me and my husband crazy. We know he

can't help it, and we are constantly reading books and websites and

trying different techniques, but he is SO SO determined to do what HE

wants to do, we just can't get through to him.

Okay, sorry, just needed to get all that out I guess. We have no

support from anyone, our families are in denial about the whole

thing. If I bring it up at all, they say " oh, that's just how boys

are, you just don't know " (I have a 3-year old who acts just fine,

thank you). I feel like they all think I'm just being a crybaby about

my son acting up (they constantly insinuate he just needs more

discipline). On top of all that, I stay home with him and we can't

hardly go out in public anymore because of the way he acts. If he

can't just run off, he screams very very loudly and everyone looks at

me like 'why don't you just leave'? But I can't always just leave, I

have to buy groceries sometime!! One time he threw his plate against

the wall and the lady at the table behind us told me we need to call

supernanny. Haha...I'm all for it if she thinks she can help!

Well, if anyone has any advice for me, I am all ears. The only thing

I am trying right now is redirection, but it is really not working at

all, all it does is put me in his path tempting him to hit me. He can

climb out of playpens and cribs, so how can I keep him from

continuing to break and throw things when he is angry? I would

definately appreciate anyone's comments or suggestions. Thanks. ~LC

[Guest guest]

Hi there!

My son is limited verbally & autistic.He was diagnosed at 3yrs but I knew

something wasn't right way before that.As for behaviors he was always active!

Climbing everything! We always had to watch him and he was very unaware of

danger(cars etc)He would run off in a minute,going to the park was another

potential danger he just was unaware of safety(hanging off a step etc)he used to

hit (hard)and it was so unpredictable just when or why he would do it.

You'd be laying there with him as he's going to sleep and Wham! He'd slap you

dead in your face.He used to bite quite a bit too,we literally had to watch our

ankles because he'd get you!He was very adversive to his therapy

sessions(DIR/Floortime)and thank God his therapist was extremely patient and

more tenacious than he was! I'd say about 6mo's after he started with her then

this behavior went away. He started having these " rages " where he would just be

impulsive,agressive,destructive(pulling over furniture,tv's)around age 8,it got

so bad I had to take him out of school.

His target has always been me(single parent)so I've been on the receiving end of

his episodes(scratching,pinching,biting) then he became self injurous.It was so

bad that like you,I could hardly go anywhere because of it.My family empathised

but my mother especially didn't " get it " till one day he had a meltdown with

her..then she understood.By that time I'd tried several meds but none really did

anything other than agrivate the situation and make him gain weight.He's on

Buspirone and I supplement with vitamins.His behaviors have pretty much ceased

every now and then he may have a long and intense " rage " episode but not daily

like it was before.I have to say that this past year has been the hardest . No

one can truely understand unless they've lived it 24/7 themselves.

I think at whatever age we start to see these behaviors it's best to definately

get on top of it because it can potentially get worse.He may be very resistant

to early intervention at first but just stick with it and learn the techniques

that work during his sessions so that you can carry that over at home.Most

importantly listen to your intuition more than anything.I'm not really a fan of

behavioral programs but we did DIR/floortime and it really worked great.. like

everything we as parents have to try everything within reason for our kids.

Stacey

From: greysonliam <greysonliam@...>

Date: 2006/08/10 Thu AM 12:23:52 CDT

autism

Subject: 2 year old behavior problems

Hi all! I am new to this group, and I'm the mother of a 2-year old,

Liam who is non-verbal autistic. I've read some of the older posts on

here, and noticed a lot of you have older children. Of the ones whose

children have aggression/behavior problems now, how were that at

younger ages? I am terrified that he will not get past this stage he

is at now. He frequently throws things, breaks things, knocks things

over, hits me (and other people though he prefers to hit me

apparently lol). We are trying to get him into a behavior program

now, hopefully that will help some. Also, he absolutely listens to

NOTHING that I say. He would run into the road if I let him, he

doesn't understand danger at all. He is pretty smart in most areas,

but he just doesn't understand (or care or something) about things

hurting him. He almost never sits still, and is constantly trying to

climb tables, chairs, anything he sees. He screams and throws things

if he gets upset (like if I say, Liam, do you want to taste this

____ ) He is absolutely driving me and my husband crazy. We know he

can't help it, and we are constantly reading books and websites and

trying different techniques, but he is SO SO determined to do what HE

wants to do, we just can't get through to him.

Okay, sorry, just needed to get all that out I guess. We have no

support from anyone, our families are in denial about the whole

thing. If I bring it up at all, they say " oh, that's just how boys

are, you just don't know " (I have a 3-year old who acts just fine,

thank you). I feel like they all think I'm just being a crybaby about

my son acting up (they constantly insinuate he just needs more

discipline). On top of all that, I stay home with him and we can't

hardly go out in public anymore because of the way he acts. If he

can't just run off, he screams very very loudly and everyone looks at

me like 'why don't you just leave'? But I can't always just leave, I

have to buy groceries sometime!! One time he threw his plate against

the wall and the lady at the table behind us told me we need to call

supernanny. Haha...I'm all for it if she thinks she can help!

Well, if anyone has any advice for me, I am all ears. The only thing

I am trying right now is redirection, but it is really not working at

all, all it does is put me in his path tempting him to hit me. He can

climb out of playpens and cribs, so how can I keep him from

continuing to break and throw things when he is angry? I would

definately appreciate anyone's comments or suggestions. Thanks. ~LC

[Guest guest]

Ths sounds like my boys at that age. Have you been in contact with a

behavior therapist?

JH

greysonliam wrote:

> Hi all! I am new to this group, and I'm the mother of a 2-year old,

> Liam who is non-verbal autistic. I've read some of the older posts on

> here, and noticed a lot of you have older children. Of the ones whose

> children have aggression/behavior problems now, how were that at

> younger ages? I am terrified that he will not get past this stage he

> is at now. He frequently throws things, breaks things, knocks things

> over, hits me (and other people though he prefers to hit me

> apparently lol). We are trying to get him into a behavior program

> now, hopefully that will help some. Also, he absolutely listens to

> NOTHING that I say. He would run into the road if I let him, he

> doesn't understand danger at all. He is pretty smart in most areas,

> but he just doesn't understand (or care or something) about things

> hurting him. He almost never sits still, and is constantly trying to

> climb tables, chairs, anything he sees. He screams and throws things

> if he gets upset (like if I say, Liam, do you want to taste this

> ____ ) He is absolutely driving me and my husband crazy. We know he

> can't help it, and we are constantly reading books and websites and

> trying different techniques, but he is SO SO determined to do what HE

> wants to do, we just can't get through to him.

> Okay, sorry, just needed to get all that out I guess. We have no

> support from anyone, our families are in denial about the whole

> thing. If I bring it up at all, they say " oh, that's just how boys

> are, you just don't know " (I have a 3-year old who acts just fine,

> thank you). I feel like they all think I'm just being a crybaby about

> my son acting up (they constantly insinuate he just needs more

> discipline). On top of all that, I stay home with him and we can't

> hardly go out in public anymore because of the way he acts. If he

> can't just run off, he screams very very loudly and everyone looks at

> me like 'why don't you just leave'? But I can't always just leave, I

> have to buy groceries sometime!! One time he threw his plate against

> the wall and the lady at the table behind us told me we need to call

> supernanny. Haha...I'm all for it if she thinks she can help!

> Well, if anyone has any advice for me, I am all ears. The only thing

> I am trying right now is redirection, but it is really not working at

> all, all it does is put me in his path tempting him to hit me. He can

> climb out of playpens and cribs, so how can I keep him from

> continuing to break and throw things when he is angry? I would

> definately appreciate anyone's comments or suggestions. Thanks. ~LC

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi LC,

You just described my 4.9 yr old when he was two...I thought

it would never end. Keeping in mind that all of our

children are different, this is what worked for me.

I removed dairy as he had continual ear infections and

vomitting, red ears and cheeks, the violence almost stopped

all together. We went Gluten free, helped with his bowels

and running like a mad man but took months to see a

difference.

I started using PECS (Picture exchange communication), I

used a visual schedual as well at home and later down the

track a keyring for the car. This all helped immensly as

even though he was non verbal at the time, alot of the

behaviour was out of frustration.

I didn't use any medication during 2-4, I used lavander oil,

rescue remedy, deep pressure massage to address the sensory

overload my son was experiencing.

With the dairy change, the visuals and the sensory issues

addressed he has grown into a lovely almost 5 yr old, who

has speech instead of screaming and having tantrums, he

loves to cuddle and share hugs with his family and friends

instead of giving black eyes and throwing hard objects, he

attends mainstream kindy 5 am's a week and is

startingmainstream primary in Oct. Teachers and children

gravitate to him as he is so kind, considerate and social.

I never thought it would happen, I honestly thought I would

be house bound forever with him but a little research,

commitment from local intervention services, and the result

is a young man who is enjoying his life at this stage to the

full. We know we will hit more road bumps but we will just

go back to basics and start again.

Hope this helped in some way

Sonya

----- Original Message Follows -----

> Hi all! I am new to this group, and I'm the mother of a

> 2-year old, Liam who is non-verbal autistic. I've read

> some of the older posts on here, and noticed a lot of you

> have older children. Of the ones whose children have

> aggression/behavior problems now, how were that at

> younger ages?

[Guest guest]

Hi LC,

You just described my 4.9 yr old when he was two...I thought

it would never end. Keeping in mind that all of our

children are different, this is what worked for me.

I removed dairy as he had continual ear infections and

vomitting, red ears and cheeks, the violence almost stopped

all together. We went Gluten free, helped with his bowels

and running like a mad man but took months to see a

difference.

I started using PECS (Picture exchange communication), I

used a visual schedual as well at home and later down the

track a keyring for the car. This all helped immensly as

even though he was non verbal at the time, alot of the

behaviour was out of frustration.

I didn't use any medication during 2-4, I used lavander oil,

rescue remedy, deep pressure massage to address the sensory

overload my son was experiencing.

With the dairy change, the visuals and the sensory issues

addressed he has grown into a lovely almost 5 yr old, who

has speech instead of screaming and having tantrums, he

loves to cuddle and share hugs with his family and friends

instead of giving black eyes and throwing hard objects, he

attends mainstream kindy 5 am's a week and is

startingmainstream primary in Oct. Teachers and children

gravitate to him as he is so kind, considerate and social.

I never thought it would happen, I honestly thought I would

be house bound forever with him but a little research,

commitment from local intervention services, and the result

is a young man who is enjoying his life at this stage to the

full. We know we will hit more road bumps but we will just

go back to basics and start again.

Hope this helped in some way

Sonya

----- Original Message Follows -----

> Hi all! I am new to this group, and I'm the mother of a

> 2-year old, Liam who is non-verbal autistic. I've read

> some of the older posts on here, and noticed a lot of you

> have older children. Of the ones whose children have

> aggression/behavior problems now, how were that at

> younger ages?

[Guest guest]

Hi, LC and welcome to the group!!!

My 4yo boy is verbally delayed (or, better put, speaks some but

listens never, lol!). He has also been a handful with issues like

aggression.

We, too, are pretty much alone in this. Not because our family

members are in denial, but because they all live in different states.

Isolation from family and friends is or can be, sadly, fairly common

when a family member is autistic. We have found that the best support

in the world has come from other families just like ours. THEY

understand. You'll find that the ones who care the most about the

success and happiness of you and your child (besides yourselves) will

be other families of autistics. It's a beautiful thing.

Give your family some time and patience. It's hard for them to

understand. I spent a lot of time researching autism and sending

links to my mom so that she could better understand. She's now a

strong autism activist.

You might want to send the video " Autism Every Day " to your family to

help them to understand. Here is a link:

http://www.autismspeaks.org/sponsoredevents/autism_every_day.php

Be sure to plug into local support groups in your community and spend

a lot of time on boards or groups such as this one.

As for your little one's behavior as it relates to public

scrutiny.... As a parent of an autistic child, I feel not only

responsible to him in doing everything I can to give him every chance

to have a good and productive life, I also feel equally responsible

to educate an unknowing and uneducated public about the realities of

autism.

To the woman who said that your son needed the " Nanny, " I think I

would have responded very kindly, with a smile, and without a hint of

malice, " No, he has autism, and for him, kindness and understanding

go a lot farther than the naughty step. "

I don't ever (in any way) try to apologize for my son's behavior.

What I do try to do is to let people know that he isn't bad, he isn't

misbehaving, he can't help himself because this is just how he is.

Of course there are some times when I just say screw 'em..... :-)

There's this T-shirt out there that I wanna get for Timmy that

says, " I have autism, what's your excuse? " I LOVE that shirt!

Timmy's aggressive bahavior has, thankfully, decreased significantly

since we started him on a gfcf diet and, later, the meds Clonidine

and Risperdal.

He used to pull hair, (his and anybody elses), kick, bite, pinch,

head butt, throw things, etc. He hardly does any of those things

anymore except he does still ocassionaly pull his brother's hair.

Also, he used to scream and scream and scream ear piercing horrible

screams. He seldom does that anymore but he does still yell VERY

loudly and repetatively if he doesn't get his way or something he

wants IMMEDIATELY and throws nuclear powered temper tantrums.

Patience, patience, patience. And then, when you don't have any more

left... More patience, patience, patience. For child, for your

family, for those uneducated strangers in line at the grocery store,

and especially for yourself. Oh, yeah! And lotsa love.

We're here for you!

STACEY,

You cracked me up with your child smacking you in your sleep story.

Been there, done that. Whooot!!!!

Oh my gosh! Aren't they just the cherry on top?

Kathy

SNIPPERS.......

> Hi all! I am new to this group, and I'm the mother of a 2-year old,

> Liam who is non-verbal autistic. I've read some of the older posts

on

> here, and noticed a lot of you have older children. Of the ones

whose

> children have aggression/behavior problems now, how were that at

> younger ages? I am terrified that he will not get past this stage

he

> is at now. He frequently throws things, breaks things, knocks

things

> over, hits me (and other people though he prefers to hit me

> apparently lol). We are trying to get him into a behavior program

> now, hopefully that will help some. Also, he absolutely listens to

> NOTHING that I say. He would run into the road if I let him, he

> doesn't understand danger at all. He is pretty smart in most areas,

> but he just doesn't understand (or care or something) about things

> hurting him. He almost never sits still, and is constantly trying

to

> climb tables, chairs, anything he sees. He screams and throws

things

> if he gets upset (like if I say, Liam, do you want to taste this

> ____ ) He is absolutely driving me and my husband crazy. We know he

> can't help it, and we are constantly reading books and websites and

> trying different techniques, but he is SO SO determined to do what

HE

> wants to do, we just can't get through to him.

> Okay, sorry, just needed to get all that out I guess. We have no

> support from anyone, our families are in denial about the whole

> thing. If I bring it up at all, they say " oh, that's just how boys

> are, you just don't know " (I have a 3-year old who acts just fine,

> thank you). I feel like they all think I'm just being a crybaby

about

> my son acting up (they constantly insinuate he just needs more

> discipline). On top of all that, I stay home with him and we can't

> hardly go out in public anymore because of the way he acts. If he

> can't just run off, he screams very very loudly and everyone looks

at

> me like 'why don't you just leave'? But I can't always just leave,

I

> have to buy groceries sometime!! One time he threw his plate

against

> the wall and the lady at the table behind us told me we need to

call

> supernanny. Haha...I'm all for it if she thinks she can help!

> Well, if anyone has any advice for me, I am all ears. The only

thing

> I am trying right now is redirection, but it is really not working

at

> all, all it does is put me in his path tempting him to hit me. He

can

> climb out of playpens and cribs, so how can I keep him from

> continuing to break and throw things when he is angry? I would

> definately appreciate anyone's comments or suggestions. Thanks. ~LC

>

[Guest guest]

Hi, LC and welcome to the group!!!

My 4yo boy is verbally delayed (or, better put, speaks some but

listens never, lol!). He has also been a handful with issues like

aggression.

We, too, are pretty much alone in this. Not because our family

members are in denial, but because they all live in different states.

Isolation from family and friends is or can be, sadly, fairly common

when a family member is autistic. We have found that the best support

in the world has come from other families just like ours. THEY

understand. You'll find that the ones who care the most about the

success and happiness of you and your child (besides yourselves) will

be other families of autistics. It's a beautiful thing.

Give your family some time and patience. It's hard for them to

understand. I spent a lot of time researching autism and sending

links to my mom so that she could better understand. She's now a

strong autism activist.

You might want to send the video " Autism Every Day " to your family to

help them to understand. Here is a link:

http://www.autismspeaks.org/sponsoredevents/autism_every_day.php

Be sure to plug into local support groups in your community and spend

a lot of time on boards or groups such as this one.

As for your little one's behavior as it relates to public

scrutiny.... As a parent of an autistic child, I feel not only

responsible to him in doing everything I can to give him every chance

to have a good and productive life, I also feel equally responsible

to educate an unknowing and uneducated public about the realities of

autism.

To the woman who said that your son needed the " Nanny, " I think I

would have responded very kindly, with a smile, and without a hint of

malice, " No, he has autism, and for him, kindness and understanding

go a lot farther than the naughty step. "

I don't ever (in any way) try to apologize for my son's behavior.

What I do try to do is to let people know that he isn't bad, he isn't

misbehaving, he can't help himself because this is just how he is.

Of course there are some times when I just say screw 'em..... :-)

There's this T-shirt out there that I wanna get for Timmy that

says, " I have autism, what's your excuse? " I LOVE that shirt!

Timmy's aggressive bahavior has, thankfully, decreased significantly

since we started him on a gfcf diet and, later, the meds Clonidine

and Risperdal.

He used to pull hair, (his and anybody elses), kick, bite, pinch,

head butt, throw things, etc. He hardly does any of those things

anymore except he does still ocassionaly pull his brother's hair.

Also, he used to scream and scream and scream ear piercing horrible

screams. He seldom does that anymore but he does still yell VERY

loudly and repetatively if he doesn't get his way or something he

wants IMMEDIATELY and throws nuclear powered temper tantrums.

Patience, patience, patience. And then, when you don't have any more

left... More patience, patience, patience. For child, for your

family, for those uneducated strangers in line at the grocery store,

and especially for yourself. Oh, yeah! And lotsa love.

We're here for you!

STACEY,

You cracked me up with your child smacking you in your sleep story.

Been there, done that. Whooot!!!!

Oh my gosh! Aren't they just the cherry on top?

Kathy

SNIPPERS.......

> Hi all! I am new to this group, and I'm the mother of a 2-year old,

> Liam who is non-verbal autistic. I've read some of the older posts

on

> here, and noticed a lot of you have older children. Of the ones

whose

> children have aggression/behavior problems now, how were that at

> younger ages? I am terrified that he will not get past this stage

he

> is at now. He frequently throws things, breaks things, knocks

things

> over, hits me (and other people though he prefers to hit me

> apparently lol). We are trying to get him into a behavior program

> now, hopefully that will help some. Also, he absolutely listens to

> NOTHING that I say. He would run into the road if I let him, he

> doesn't understand danger at all. He is pretty smart in most areas,

> but he just doesn't understand (or care or something) about things

> hurting him. He almost never sits still, and is constantly trying

to

> climb tables, chairs, anything he sees. He screams and throws

things

> if he gets upset (like if I say, Liam, do you want to taste this

> ____ ) He is absolutely driving me and my husband crazy. We know he

> can't help it, and we are constantly reading books and websites and

> trying different techniques, but he is SO SO determined to do what

HE

> wants to do, we just can't get through to him.

> Okay, sorry, just needed to get all that out I guess. We have no

> support from anyone, our families are in denial about the whole

> thing. If I bring it up at all, they say " oh, that's just how boys

> are, you just don't know " (I have a 3-year old who acts just fine,

> thank you). I feel like they all think I'm just being a crybaby

about

> my son acting up (they constantly insinuate he just needs more

> discipline). On top of all that, I stay home with him and we can't

> hardly go out in public anymore because of the way he acts. If he

> can't just run off, he screams very very loudly and everyone looks

at

> me like 'why don't you just leave'? But I can't always just leave,

I

> have to buy groceries sometime!! One time he threw his plate

against

> the wall and the lady at the table behind us told me we need to

call

> supernanny. Haha...I'm all for it if she thinks she can help!

> Well, if anyone has any advice for me, I am all ears. The only

thing

> I am trying right now is redirection, but it is really not working

at

> all, all it does is put me in his path tempting him to hit me. He

can

> climb out of playpens and cribs, so how can I keep him from

> continuing to break and throw things when he is angry? I would

> definately appreciate anyone's comments or suggestions. Thanks. ~LC

>

[Guest guest]

>

> Hi all! I am new to this group, and I'm the mother of a 2-year old,

> Liam who is non-verbal autistic. I've read some of the older posts

Hello,

I have a great card to give to " People in Public " that do not

understand our children.

It says: THIS CHILD IS AUTISTIC....Autistic individuals cannot

tolerate stores, waiting in line, or standing near other people.

Although he appears to " look " normal, he does have Autism. If you see

this child is " out of control " in his actions or his behavior, it is

because of the AUTISM and not due to a lack of parenting skills.

Thank you for taking the time to read this card about my child.

I cannot tell you how many times I have used this card and then (and

only then) have had people says nice things, or offered to help, or

want to be nice to him. It is amazing. I would give to the rude

people who made comments or even individuals staring at us before

they had a chance to say something. You will also be able to go to

the front of the line in cases like waiting for Santa or such. Fair

or not, my child could NOT wait in lines and it was either go to the

front of the line or not ever get a photo with Santa.

I went through what you did. I am a single grandmother who after

giving up all I had to raise him alone had to endure this and many

other hardships. I too had family that did not want to help,

understand or care to be involved. People in public are by far the

thoughest.

If you would like me to send you some of these cards, please email me

and let me know.

Trish (Mom to AJ, Autistic)

[Guest guest]

>

> Hi all! I am new to this group, and I'm the mother of a 2-year old,

> Liam who is non-verbal autistic. I've read some of the older posts

Hello,

I have a great card to give to " People in Public " that do not

understand our children.

It says: THIS CHILD IS AUTISTIC....Autistic individuals cannot

tolerate stores, waiting in line, or standing near other people.

Although he appears to " look " normal, he does have Autism. If you see

this child is " out of control " in his actions or his behavior, it is

because of the AUTISM and not due to a lack of parenting skills.

Thank you for taking the time to read this card about my child.

I cannot tell you how many times I have used this card and then (and

only then) have had people says nice things, or offered to help, or

want to be nice to him. It is amazing. I would give to the rude

people who made comments or even individuals staring at us before

they had a chance to say something. You will also be able to go to

the front of the line in cases like waiting for Santa or such. Fair

or not, my child could NOT wait in lines and it was either go to the

front of the line or not ever get a photo with Santa.

I went through what you did. I am a single grandmother who after

giving up all I had to raise him alone had to endure this and many

other hardships. I too had family that did not want to help,

understand or care to be involved. People in public are by far the

thoughest.

If you would like me to send you some of these cards, please email me

and let me know.

Trish (Mom to AJ, Autistic)

[Guest guest]

Hi,

Have you by any chance taken him to an OT for a sensory evaluation? If you have

this

resource available to you through insurance consider it. Our OT visits have

helped my

now four year old more than anything!!!

>

> Hi all! I am new to this group, and I'm the mother of a 2-year old,

> Liam who is non-verbal autistic. I've read some of the older posts on

> here, and noticed a lot of you have older children. Of the ones whose

> children have aggression/behavior problems now, how were that at

> younger ages? I am terrified that he will not get past this stage he

> is at now. He frequently throws things, breaks things, knocks things

> over, hits me (and other people though he prefers to hit me

> apparently lol). We are trying to get him into a behavior program

> now, hopefully that will help some. Also, he absolutely listens to

> NOTHING that I say. He would run into the road if I let him, he

> doesn't understand danger at all. He is pretty smart in most areas,

> but he just doesn't understand (or care or something) about things

> hurting him. He almost never sits still, and is constantly trying to

> climb tables, chairs, anything he sees. He screams and throws things

> if he gets upset (like if I say, Liam, do you want to taste this

> ____ ) He is absolutely driving me and my husband crazy. We know he

> can't help it, and we are constantly reading books and websites and

> trying different techniques, but he is SO SO determined to do what HE

> wants to do, we just can't get through to him.

> Okay, sorry, just needed to get all that out I guess. We have no

> support from anyone, our families are in denial about the whole

> thing. If I bring it up at all, they say " oh, that's just how boys

> are, you just don't know " (I have a 3-year old who acts just fine,

> thank you). I feel like they all think I'm just being a crybaby about

> my son acting up (they constantly insinuate he just needs more

> discipline). On top of all that, I stay home with him and we can't

> hardly go out in public anymore because of the way he acts. If he

> can't just run off, he screams very very loudly and everyone looks at

> me like 'why don't you just leave'? But I can't always just leave, I

> have to buy groceries sometime!! One time he threw his plate against

> the wall and the lady at the table behind us told me we need to call

> supernanny. Haha...I'm all for it if she thinks she can help!

> Well, if anyone has any advice for me, I am all ears. The only thing

> I am trying right now is redirection, but it is really not working at

> all, all it does is put me in his path tempting him to hit me. He can

> climb out of playpens and cribs, so how can I keep him from

> continuing to break and throw things when he is angry? I would

> definately appreciate anyone's comments or suggestions. Thanks. ~LC

>

[Guest guest]

Hi,

Have you by any chance taken him to an OT for a sensory evaluation? If you have

this

resource available to you through insurance consider it. Our OT visits have

helped my

now four year old more than anything!!!

>

> Hi all! I am new to this group, and I'm the mother of a 2-year old,

> Liam who is non-verbal autistic. I've read some of the older posts on

> here, and noticed a lot of you have older children. Of the ones whose

> children have aggression/behavior problems now, how were that at

> younger ages? I am terrified that he will not get past this stage he

> is at now. He frequently throws things, breaks things, knocks things

> over, hits me (and other people though he prefers to hit me

> apparently lol). We are trying to get him into a behavior program

> now, hopefully that will help some. Also, he absolutely listens to

> NOTHING that I say. He would run into the road if I let him, he

> doesn't understand danger at all. He is pretty smart in most areas,

> but he just doesn't understand (or care or something) about things

> hurting him. He almost never sits still, and is constantly trying to

> climb tables, chairs, anything he sees. He screams and throws things

> if he gets upset (like if I say, Liam, do you want to taste this

> ____ ) He is absolutely driving me and my husband crazy. We know he

> can't help it, and we are constantly reading books and websites and

> trying different techniques, but he is SO SO determined to do what HE

> wants to do, we just can't get through to him.

> Okay, sorry, just needed to get all that out I guess. We have no

> support from anyone, our families are in denial about the whole

> thing. If I bring it up at all, they say " oh, that's just how boys

> are, you just don't know " (I have a 3-year old who acts just fine,

> thank you). I feel like they all think I'm just being a crybaby about

> my son acting up (they constantly insinuate he just needs more

> discipline). On top of all that, I stay home with him and we can't

> hardly go out in public anymore because of the way he acts. If he

> can't just run off, he screams very very loudly and everyone looks at

> me like 'why don't you just leave'? But I can't always just leave, I

> have to buy groceries sometime!! One time he threw his plate against

> the wall and the lady at the table behind us told me we need to call

> supernanny. Haha...I'm all for it if she thinks she can help!

> Well, if anyone has any advice for me, I am all ears. The only thing

> I am trying right now is redirection, but it is really not working at

> all, all it does is put me in his path tempting him to hit me. He can

> climb out of playpens and cribs, so how can I keep him from

> continuing to break and throw things when he is angry? I would

> definately appreciate anyone's comments or suggestions. Thanks. ~LC

>