Kids

October 26, 1999

They are gorgeous! Just the cutest pictures!

~,moma to (DS) and Sloan {17 months}

October 26, 1999

Carolyn,

They are beautiful children. I know you are so

proud of them!

mom to Landon(DS) and Ashton 16 months

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> They are gorgeous! Just the cutest pictures!

> ~,moma to (DS) and Sloan {17 months}

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October 26, 1999

Hi Carolyn,

They are so adorable! I had to look twice at Nicki, because she looks just

like my little a would look if she we're just about a year older.

- mom to a (DS) and Cory - 15 months

(http://www.asapnet.net/mr_mach/)

Kids

Thought I'd share a photo of my two darlings with you!

Emma is the one with the pencil!

Carolyn mum to on-7, -6, and Emma-3 1/2(ds) and Nicki-2

1/2(ds)

October 26, 1999

hi Carolyn-

Very cute children. Loved the black and white photo. I want to have some

done in black and white of our girls.

Re: Kids

From: " Machkovich " <lisa_machkovich@...>

Hi Carolyn,

They are so adorable! I had to look twice at Nicki, because she looks just

like my little a would look if she we're just about a year older.

- mom to a (DS) and Cory - 15 months

(http://www.asapnet.net/mr_mach/)

Kids

Thought I'd share a photo of my two darlings with you!

Emma is the one with the pencil!

Carolyn mum to on-7, -6, and Emma-3 1/2(ds) and Nicki-2

1/2(ds)

http://DSyndrome.com/Multiples

October 2, 2000

Hiya Kit,

Thanks for kind and thoughtful message. It really touched me.

You're right of course, if prospective parents had to pass an exam, it would

be interesting to see how many would qualify. At the time of my first

pregnancy, I was hopelessly inadequate, literally a child with a child. It's

awesome to think how often we parent by trial and error, but as you said,

most people somehow manage despite it being the most responsible of jobs.

Recently I saw a show in which a child-care specialist (I think) said, " Do

your eyes light up when your kids enter the room? " Can you imagine what

difference this would make? No matter how tired a person is, it doesn't take

a lot of energy to light up your eyes when you see your children. I'm going

to remember this every time I see my daughter's children when we are on hols.

All the best Kit, if you are a fraction of the kind, caring, supportive

person you are on these boards, then you are already a wonderful Dad.

Leaner.

April 28, 2006

> So many people say ³the kids won¹t eat it². Your dipping method is perfect

> for little kids. Before we started our school, I used to run a daycare center.

> I had every single child excited about ³dipping². If you give a child a

> choice of two things to dip, or two dips and one veggie, the little ones can¹t

> resist. Even the hyper two¹s love it. The question is never ³do you want

> this vegetable², the question is do you want mom¹s dressing or salsa on your

> celery?² We all like control and choices, even two year olds. This works every

> time and helps kids develop good eating patterns.

>

> Kathy

>

> My kids like " dip " for many of our meals (hummos, salsa, goddess,

> liquid aminos, and yes, ketchup) and I like to put it right on the

> plate without getting a separate bowl for it. Plus my 18-mo-old has a

> much easier time getting food onto spoon or fork with the dividers

> (instead of " chasing " the food around the plate). We will do almost

> anything to help her feed herself without assistance! We probably use

> the divided style 1/3 of the time - otherwise they get salad plates

> from the regular family set.

>

June 16, 2008

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From: Indelicato <nicole178@...>Subject: FW: Fw: Kidsaud6173@..., "'Caroline Rykhoff'" <carolinerykhoff@...>, taintedtears102@..., "' McClay'" <moonlillie@...>, kfry25@..., Bunse00@..., billandnancyusa@...Date: Thursday, June 12, 2008, 1:37 PM

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Why do we love children?1) NUDITY I was driving with my three young children one warm summer evening when a woman in the convertible ahead of us stood up and waved. She was stark naked! As I was reeling from the shock, I heard my 5-year-old shout from the back seat, 'Mom, that lady isn't wearing a seat belt! ' 2) OPINIONS On the first day of school, a first-grader handed his teacher a note from his mother. The note read, 'The opinions expressed by this child are not necessarily those of his parents.' 3) KETCHUP A woman was trying hard to get the ketchup out of the jar. During her struggle the ph one rang so she asked her 4-year-old daughter to answer the phone. 'Mommy can't come to the phone to talk to you right now. She's hitting the bottle.' 4) MORE NUDITY A little boy got lost at the YMCA and found himself in the women's locker room. When he was spotted, the room burst into shri eks, with ladies grabbing towels and running for cover. The little boy watched in amazement and then asked, 'What's the matter, haven't you ever seen a little boy before?' 5) POLICE # 1 While taking a routine vandalism report at an elementary school, I was interrupted by a little girl about 6 years old. Looking up and down at my uniform, she asked, 'Are you a cop? Yes,' I answered and continued writing the report. My mother said if I ever needed help I should ask the police. Is that r ight?' 'Yes, that's right,' I told her. 'Well, then,' she said as she extended her foot toward me, 'would you please tie my shoe?' 6) POLICE # 2It was the end of the day when I parked my police van in front of the station. As I gathered my equipment, my K-9 partner, Jake, was barking, and I saw a little boy staring in at me. 'Is that a dog you got back there?' he asked.'It sure is,' I replied.Puzzled, the boy looked at me and then towards the back of the van n. Finally he said, 'What'd he do?' 7) ELDERLYWhile working for an organization that delivers lunches to elderly shut-ins, I used to take my 4-year-old daughter on my afternoon rounds. She was unfailingly intrigued by the various appliances of old age, particularly the canes, walkers and wheelchairs. One day I found her staring at a pair of false teeth soaking in a glass. As I braced myself for the inevitable barrage of questions, she merely turned and whispered, 'The tooth fairy will never believe this!'8) DR ESS-UPA little girl was watching her parents dress for a party. When she saw her dad donning his tuxedo, she warned, 'Daddy, you shouldn't wear that suit.''And why not, darling?''You know that it always gives you a headache the next morning.' 9) DEATHWhile walking along the sidewalk in front of his church, our minister heard the intoning of a prayer that nearly made his collar wilt. Apparently, his 5-year-old son and his playmates had found a dead robin. Feeling that proper burial should be performed, they had secured a small box and cotton batting, then dug a hole and made ready for the disposal of the deceased.The minister's son was chosen to say the appropriate prayers and with sonorous dignity intoned his version of what he thoug ht his father always said: 'Glory be unto the Faaather, and unto the Sonnn, and into the hole he goooes.' (I want this line used at my funeral!)10) SCHOOLA little girl had just finished her first week of school. 'I'm just wasting my time,' she said to her mother. 'I can't read, I can't write, and they won't let me talk!'11) BIBLEA little boy opened the big family Bible. He was fascinated as he fingered through the old pages. Suddenly, something fell out of the Bible. He picked up the object and looked at it. What he saw was an old leaf that had been pressed in between the pages.'Mama, look what I found,' the boy called out.'What have you got there, dear?'With astonishment in the young boy's voice, he answered, 'I think it's Adam's underwear!'

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July 14, 2009

Please know I wasn't trying to come across as harsh or anything like

that when I wrote. Since then I've been trying to think about how it

was when I was a teenager and what I liked and what I didn't. With

your mention of your daughter having ADHD that opened up to me

including what a good friend has said about growing up with severe ADD.

With ADD & ADHD when a parent typically tells a kid what to do they

instantly retaliate as they don't like being told what to do more than

even the average child then add in her age and puberty which just

makes it that much worse. My friend actually eats healthier than

anyone I know because it makes her feel better than when she eats

junk. Her mother never made a big deal about what she ate or her

exercise. She was a gymnast, her passion, that her mom HATED her

doing, but she did it anyway - well, actually (more specifically)

because her mother hated it.

At her age every child loves everything that is processed more than

regular foods. By now she also knows how they make her feel vs.

healthy foods so you telling her just makes her retaliate more. Since

you say she doesn't like being active what does she like to do? If she

likes video games then the Wii with active games is excellent. What do

her friends like to do? You mentioned games - what types of games does

she like to play? That can open her up to playing sports she enjoys

and can play for a lifetime.

One thing that annoyed me at your daughter's age that my mom did with

me from age 12-15 was go on long walks around 3 times a week. This was

our time together to talk about everything going on in our lives.

While at the time I wasn't always a big fan, I can say now that it was

actually an enjoyable thing to do. Originally I went with my mom to

the gym starting around age 8. By age 10 I started doing aerobics

classes not because my mom said anything (probably would have turned

me off of them!), but because I liked the challenge to see if I could

do them. I wish she had kept that philosophy! Now there are gyms where

they are more family oriented and have things kids find fun to do. The

one we recently joined even has rock climbing and swimming that can be

done as a family which is great for kids.

It is time to stop checking her weight as soon as she is showing that

she doesn't appreciate it. That is the last thing you want her

focusing on. When you are doing something concerning her weight (how

much exercise, what she weighs, etc.) first put yourself in her shoes

and think about what you would have done at her age if your mom was

doing that exact same thing to you. It takes a little longer and is

harder to do, but in the long run she will really appreciate you doing

that even if she never says so. Also, it's never too late to redirect

your child's thoughts about their relationship with food as they are

learning from what you do each and every day.

Just remember, you're doing an amazing job and she's learning and

repeating each and everything you do so the more you succeed the more

she succeeds.

If you're wondering what I wish my mom had done differently they would

be having a healthy relationship with food herself (she still doesn't

have one as she has a coke in the morning, sugar cookies or other junk

when she gets home from work, then dinner which is healthy),

supporting me in the various activities I was interested in (dance,

softball, track, and volleyball) even though she was never into

competitive sports, not making a big deal about the number on the

scale and the tape measure, and not telling me if I eat that it'll

make me fat (especially when I was small as it just made me eat more

of it!). She didn't do any of these things for any reason other than

she did the best she could with the knowledge she had at the time, but

I have taken it on myself to learn from her mistakes so I can make my

own unique ones later.

Jen

On Jul 14, 2009, at 3:43 PM, Corinna L Mulligan wrote:

>

> I hear what you are saying. We do focus on eating healthy first. But

> they do really pick up on what you do over what you say. The icecream

> would be gone in the morning because *I* would eat it. Mixed

> signals, you

> know? We used to find all sorts of things that she had hidden..

> including

> dry pudding! Yuck. I used to joke that she snacks like a pothead.

>

> I eat VERY healthy and then undo it in 5 minutes of compulsive eating.

> Whee!

>

> My kids eat fresh foods for the most part. I cut up cucumbers and

> tomatoes every day. There is also a bowl on baby carrots all the

> time. We

> have apples, etc .. I know that she has some of those habits.

>

> She loves anything with the word " processed " in it, though. She really

> likes grilled salmon, but otherwise prefers hamburgers, hotdogs or

> bologna.

>

> My daughter has ADHD and scored really high on the impulsivity

> scale.. so

> lack of control over her impulse to eat goes along with having issues

> controlling the lying, stealing, etc too. (she has many wonderful

> qualities!!)

>

> But! Since I still have some control over her cognitive and

> behavioural

> outcome, I'd like to try to undo what I have done.

>

> I am a much better eater now. I don't binge (right now.. who knows

> what

> tomorrow will be like!)

>

> She doesn't like being active, which is annoying, too. The triathlon

> clinic I signed the other two kids up for is all games, so I am

> going to

> bring her tonight. She likes games. She wouldn't like the actual tri

> because at her age, it's a mini-tri distance, which is a daunting

> for an

> inactive kid (400 metre swim, 10K bike, 3K run).

>

> I will definitely try to remember that she's listening to what I do

> more

> than what I say. I hope it isn't too late.

>

> She sees the doctor tomorrow.. She's always so upset when I check how

> much she weighs.. At what point is it none of my business? Maybe I

> shouldn't tell her I know and get the nurse to write it down for me.

>

> Posted by: " McKay " jenny_mckay1@... jennifer_l_mckay

> Mon Jul 13, 2009 10:12 am (PDT)

>

> As a child I never had a weight problem and could eat whatever I

> wanted.

> Until I was in junior high and high school my mother never said

> anything

> about what I ate or my weight. When she started is when I developed

> issues

> with food. She was projecting her issues that developed in junior

> high on

> me (she was heavy during that period of her life and has never been

> since). Up until that point I was never a binger and typically picked

> healthy foods over unhealthy.

>

> Every night after dinner I had a small bowl of ice cream with fruit,

> about

> 1/2 a scoop, when we lived with my grandparents (until I was 9). I

> also

> ate a ton of home grown fruits and veggies with very lean cuts of

> meat (I

> have always refused to eat fatty meats). Pasta was a rarity, but we

> had a

> small roll with dinner every night. The balanced meal followed by a

> sweet

> snack allowed me to be able to satiate my sweet tooth at night. My

> husband, on the other hand, was rarely allowed to have ice cream or

> any

> junk food for that matter. Now, I can still sit down and have a bite

> or

> two and be fine. He will eat an entire gallon if one is purchased.

>

> Instead of teaching kids no you can't have this because it will make

> you

> fat you want to teach them to predominately pick healthy options.

> It's all

> about the angle you come at them, not the information. This is

> something

> they can use for life and will keep them from developing food issues

> as

> they get older. Your eldest is already showing that she's developing

> food

> issues if she's saying she can't wait to be able to sit and eat that

> much

> ice cream at one time. Growing up we always had junk in the house so,

> unlike my friends that were never allowed any (like my husband), I

> typically would have a little of it, but mainly go for the fruits and

> veggies. Now we cannot have any junk in the house because my husband

> will

> eat all of it in one sitting. This is actually not good for me as

> having

> it there helps me to make better choices on when I have it and how

> much of

> it I eat.

>

> My own food issues are more of I forget to eat until I am starving,

> I have

> learned to stress eat (something I never did when I was younger),

> and my

> husband competitively eats with me. If I don't finish by the time he's

> done he starts taking off my plate without asking and thinks it's

> okay no

> matter how many times we discuss that it is not. When I feel done I

> will

> gladly give him the rest of mine. There was one time we shared a

> plate and

> I literally got two bites and he ate the rest. Since then we have

> never

> shared a plate.

>

> Jen

>

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