Re: Hi from Maya, semi-new member

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>

> Hi all.

>

> I joined this group a while back, then moved from Florida to Tennessee and

haven't kept up

with it. So I'm starting over now and thought I'd introduce myself.

Welcome back!

> I weigh 250.5 pounds, as of this morning. My " plan " is to go the Dr. Phil

way. I've long

struggled with body image issues, but I am thinking of joining a gym. My

daughter is wonderful,

but she wants to be actually on my body about 20 hours a day - she's sleeping in

my lap right

now. I have been walking with her every day, but it's about to get hot and I

know I won't go

walking when it's hot. I just won't. Anyway, I go to the gym to check it out

tomorrow. I'm a little

worried because Violet is in separation anxiety mode right now, so I don't know

how this is

going to work. And I've never left her anywhere without me for any length of

time. We don't

have any family here, aside from my husband's stepsister, so it's pretty much

just us and the

baby.

>

> So V will go to " Kid Kare " tomorrow while I tour the gym. Eek. She's not

going to like it. But if

it works out and we can afford to join then I think I will be happy to have 1-2

hours to focus on

myself for 5 days per week. Right now I'm overloaded with baby and sleep

deprived. She's a

wonderful baby and I'm so glad she's so energetic, but she wears me out. I'm

putting myself on

project status, as Dr. Phil would say, and hoping that having some time to

myself at the gym will

be an incentive to go and will help me get over my gym dread. So I'll check out

the gym

tomorrow and go from there.

<Puts on Drill Sgt cap> No, she's probably not going to like it. But, ya know

what? As Dr. Phil

says - TOUGH! Not to sound harsh, but isn't that what he'd say about thinks we'd

'like' to do vs.

things we NEED to do? She's going to have to get used to it sooner or later -

and better

sooner. Don't you go all soft-momma on us and let her pull your heartstrings

into something

that's going to end up bad for the both of you! <Removes cap> Easier said than

done, I know

> As for eating, like I said, I'm going with the Dr. Phil method. I don't have

a lot of time to do

much of anything, but I do like to cook, so I'm just going to try to make

healthy goals every

week/month and keep the momentum going until I get there.

What exactly is the Dr. Phil Method?

> I'm starting a blog too, where I'll write and post pictures and stuff like

that.

>

> Thanks! I'm glad there are groups like these out there!

>

> - Maya

> http://www.losing4babyv.blogspot.com

SulaBlue

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> My name is Maya, I'm 36 years old, and I live in Knoxville, TN.

I'm married to Ross and we have a 7-month-old daughter named Violet.

Right now I'm blessed to be working at home doing editing/proofing for

the company I worked for in Atlanta, where we're from originally. Last

year we lived in West Palm Beach and we were still in the hospital

after having Violet when hurricane Wilma hit. So that was fun. :-P

Hi Maya! What a mess--I'll bet your stress level was off the charts

with a newborn and a hurricane coming through.

> I weigh 250.5 pounds, as of this morning. My " plan " is to go the

Dr. Phil way. I've long struggled with body image issues, but I am

thinking of joining a gym. My daughter is wonderful, but she wants to

be actually on my body about 20 hours a day - she's sleeping in my lap

right now. I have been walking with her every day, but it's about to

get hot and I know I won't go walking when it's hot. I just won't.

Anyway, I go to the gym to check it out tomorrow. I'm a little worried

because Violet is in separation anxiety mode right now, so I don't

know how this is going to work. And I've never left her anywhere

without me for any length of time. We don't have any family here,

aside from my husband's stepsister, so it's pretty much just us and

the baby.

My boys are (just turned) 5 and 2.5 years old. My first was exactly

like that--he was *on* me 22 hours out of the day. I actually slept

with him on my chest in a recliner at night because he wouldn't sleep

otherwise. Did that until he was almost 6 months old and my back

simply couldn't take anymore! Anyway, I was more of the attachment

parenting school of thought, but down the road I believe it made

things more difficult for both of us. My second one I put into other

people's care more frequently (mostly family, as I'm a SAHM), and I

believe he is so much better for it. All my friends who have really

little ones (under a year) have put their kids in the YMCA's kidcare

and those kids do GREAT! I wouldn't give up if it doesn't work the

first time...it takes a few times before they 'remember' that you're

going to come back.

> So V will go to " Kid Kare " tomorrow while I tour the gym. Eek.

She's not going to like it. But if it works out and we can afford to

join then I think I will be happy to have 1-2 hours to focus on myself

for 5 days per week. Right now I'm overloaded with baby and sleep

deprived. She's a wonderful baby and I'm so glad she's so energetic,

but she wears me out. I'm putting myself on project status, as Dr.

Phil would say, and hoping that having some time to myself at the gym

will be an incentive to go and will help me get over my gym dread. So

I'll check out the gym tomorrow and go from there.

Oh, how I wish I'd done this for myself! I'm such a happier, more

relaxed, more patient mommy after my exercise time

> As for eating, like I said, I'm going with the Dr. Phil method. I

don't have a lot of time to do much of anything, but I do like to

cook, so I'm just going to try to make healthy goals every week/month

and keep the momentum going until I get there.

*nods* I think Dr Phil's plan is very reasonable...very similar to

lots of other things out there, only he is very specific if I remember

correctly. What I mean is, WW encourages you to eat healthy and

follow certain guidelines, but Dr Phil says, " Have one protein and

blah blah blah " for lunch. So he spells it out and tells you

precisely what to do. It's very healthy, so good for you for choosing

that one!

Anyway, good luck on your journey--I look forward to hearing how the

gym visit goes tomorrow

-Bonnie

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Going all soft-momma -- that made me laugh! I do it all the time. But you're right, I'm going to try to buck up tomorrow. I do think it'll be better for her in the long run. The Dr. Phil plan is basically following all the 'rules' in his book - The Ultimate Weight Solution. Of course you eat properly and exercise - but you also change the way you think of yourself, getting rid of negative tapes that play in your head (this is too hard, this will never work, etc.) and set yourself up for success (no chips in the house, etc.). I think it's very doable, as far as diets go. It's a lifestyle. - Maya SulaBlue <sulablue2001@...> wrote: >> Hi all.> > I joined this group a while back, then moved from Florida to Tennessee and haven't kept up with it. So I'm starting over now and thought I'd introduce myself.Welcome back!> I weigh 250.5 pounds, as of this morning. My "plan" is to go the Dr. Phil way. I've long struggled with body image issues, but I am thinking of joining a gym. My daughter is wonderful, but she wants to be actually on my body about 20 hours a day - she's sleeping in my lap right now. I have been walking with her every day, but it's about to get hot and I know I won't go walking when it's hot. I just won't. Anyway, I

go to the gym to check it out tomorrow. I'm a little worried because Violet is in separation anxiety mode right now, so I don't know how this is going to work. And I've never left her anywhere without me for any length of time. We don't have any family here, aside from my husband's stepsister, so it's pretty much just us and the baby. > > So V will go to "Kid Kare" tomorrow while I tour the gym. Eek. She's not going to like it. But if it works out and we can afford to join then I think I will be happy to have 1-2 hours to focus on myself for 5 days per week. Right now I'm overloaded with baby and sleep deprived. She's a wonderful baby and I'm so glad she's so energetic, but she wears me out. I'm putting myself on project status, as Dr. Phil would say, and hoping that having some time to myself at the gym will be an incentive to go and will help me get over my gym dread. So I'll check out the gym tomorrow and go from

there. <Puts on Drill Sgt cap> No, she's probably not going to like it. But, ya know what? As Dr. Phil says - TOUGH! Not to sound harsh, but isn't that what he'd say about thinks we'd 'like' to do vs. things we NEED to do? She's going to have to get used to it sooner or later - and better sooner. Don't you go all soft-momma on us and let her pull your heartstrings into something that's going to end up bad for the both of you! <Removes cap> Easier said than done, I know > As for eating, like I said, I'm going with the Dr. Phil method. I don't have a lot of time to do much of anything, but I do like to cook, so I'm just going to try to make healthy goals every week/month and keep the momentum going until I get there.What exactly is the Dr. Phil Method?> I'm starting a blog too, where I'll write and post pictures and stuff like that.> > Thanks! I'm glad there are groups like these out

there!> > - Maya> http://www.losing4babyv.blogspot.comSulaBlue __________________________________________________

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You're so right - my stress level was Way Off The Chart. She screamed for the first two weeks of her life, solid, I believe. Probably because I was so stressed - a vicious cycle. I too am into the attachment parenting style (not that she gives me much choice), but I know that if we can get over this initial hurdle, she will like going to play and I will get a much needed break. Thanks for your email! - Maya brgk44 <brgk44@...> wrote: > My name is Maya, I'm 36 years old, and I live in Knoxville, TN.I'm married to Ross and we have a 7-month-old daughter named Violet.Right now I'm blessed to be working at home doing editing/proofing forthe company I worked for in Atlanta, where we're from originally. Lastyear we lived in West Palm Beach and we were still in the hospitalafter having Violet when hurricane Wilma hit. So that was fun. :-PHi Maya! What a mess--I'll bet your stress level was off the chartswith a newborn and a hurricane coming through.> I weigh 250.5 pounds, as of this morning. My "plan" is to go theDr. Phil way. I've long struggled with body image issues, but I amthinking of joining a gym. My daughter is wonderful, but she wants tobe actually on my body about 20 hours a day - she's sleeping in my lapright now. I have been walking with her every day, but it's about toget hot and I know I won't go walking when it's hot. I just

won't.Anyway, I go to the gym to check it out tomorrow. I'm a little worriedbecause Violet is in separation anxiety mode right now, so I don'tknow how this is going to work. And I've never left her anywherewithout me for any length of time. We don't have any family here,aside from my husband's stepsister, so it's pretty much just us andthe baby. My boys are (just turned) 5 and 2.5 years old. My first was exactlylike that--he was *on* me 22 hours out of the day. I actually sleptwith him on my chest in a recliner at night because he wouldn't sleepotherwise. Did that until he was almost 6 months old and my backsimply couldn't take anymore! Anyway, I was more of the attachmentparenting school of thought, but down the road I believe it madethings more difficult for both of us. My second one I put into otherpeople's care more frequently (mostly family, as I'm a SAHM), and Ibelieve he is so much better for it. All my

friends who have reallylittle ones (under a year) have put their kids in the YMCA's kidcareand those kids do GREAT! I wouldn't give up if it doesn't work thefirst time...it takes a few times before they 'remember' that you'regoing to come back.> So V will go to "Kid Kare" tomorrow while I tour the gym. Eek.She's not going to like it. But if it works out and we can afford tojoin then I think I will be happy to have 1-2 hours to focus on myselffor 5 days per week. Right now I'm overloaded with baby and sleepdeprived. She's a wonderful baby and I'm so glad she's so energetic,but she wears me out. I'm putting myself on project status, as Dr.Phil would say, and hoping that having some time to myself at the gymwill be an incentive to go and will help me get over my gym dread. SoI'll check out the gym tomorrow and go from there. Oh, how I wish I'd done this for myself! I'm such a happier, morerelaxed, more

patient mommy after my exercise time > As for eating, like I said, I'm going with the Dr. Phil method. Idon't have a lot of time to do much of anything, but I do like tocook, so I'm just going to try to make healthy goals every week/monthand keep the momentum going until I get there.*nods* I think Dr Phil's plan is very reasonable...very similar tolots of other things out there, only he is very specific if I remembercorrectly. What I mean is, WW encourages you to eat healthy andfollow certain guidelines, but Dr Phil says, "Have one protein andblah blah blah" for lunch. So he spells it out and tells youprecisely what to do. It's very healthy, so good for you for choosingthat one!Anyway, good luck on your journey--I look forward to hearing how thegym visit goes tomorrow -Bonnie __________________________________________________

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Welcome Back Maya. I have Dr phils book and read it occasionsally. Should dust it off. It makes sense what he says but sometimes I think he is a quack. Break Ms Violet of the hanging now before it is to late. LOL She just loves her mommy. Keep us posted on the gym.

NH... Mom to Abby Liz 10/94 Anne 7/99

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I have the book and the food guide for the UWS altho I havent finished reading it haven't looked at it in a while. Might pick it up sometime today and read some more its been awhile. Have you read the whole book?? Did you find it helpful?? Losing 4 Baby V <losing4babyv@...> wrote: Going all soft-momma -- that made me laugh! I do it all the time. But you're right, I'm going to try to buck up tomorrow. I do think it'll be better for her in the long run. The Dr. Phil plan

is basically following all the 'rules' in his book - The Ultimate Weight Solution. Of course you eat properly and exercise - but you also change the way you think of yourself, getting rid of negative tapes that play in your head (this is too hard, this will never work, etc.) and set yourself up for success (no chips in the house, etc.). I think it's very doable, as far as diets go. It's a lifestyle. - Maya SulaBlue <sulablue2001@...> wrote: . __________________________________________________

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I read the whole book when it came out. I read it and I said, yes, this will definitely work for me, I'm just not interested in doing that right now. So I put it on the shelf. I like the ideas that willpower doesn't work and that you have to structure your environment for success. I don't have the food guide. I figure I'll go check it out at and Noble and then buy it used on Amazon. - Maya <bostonsweety27@...> wrote: I have the book

and the food guide for the UWS altho I havent finished reading it haven't looked at it in a while. Might pick it up sometime today and read some more its been awhile. Have you read the whole book?? Did you find it helpful?? Losing 4 Baby V <losing4babyv@...> wrote: Going all soft-momma -- that made me laugh! I do it all the time. But you're right, I'm going to try to buck up tomorrow. I do think it'll be better for her in the long run. The Dr. Phil plan is basically following all the 'rules' in his book - The Ultimate Weight Solution. Of course you eat properly and exercise - but you also change the way you think of yourself, getting rid of negative tapes that play in your head (this is too hard, this will never work, etc.) and set yourself up for success (no

chips in the house, etc.). I think it's very doable, as far as diets go. It's a lifestyle. - Maya SulaBlue <sulablue2001@...> wrote: . __________________________________________________

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What is the Dr. Phil method?

Good luck!

~Angel

301/250/175

On Wed, 7 Jun 2006, Losing 4 Baby V wrote:

> Hi all.

>

> I joined this group a while back, then moved from Florida to Tennessee and

haven't kept up with it. So I'm starting over now and thought I'd introduce

myself.

>

> My name is Maya, I'm 36 years old, and I live in Knoxville, TN. I'm married

to Ross and we have a 7-month-old daughter named Violet. Right now I'm blessed

to be working at home doing editing/proofing for the company I worked for in

Atlanta, where we're from originally. Last year we lived in West Palm Beach and

we were still in the hospital after having Violet when hurricane Wilma hit. So

that was fun. :-P

>

> I weigh 250.5 pounds, as of this morning. My " plan " is to go the Dr. Phil

way. I've long struggled with body image issues, but I am thinking of joining a

gym. My daughter is wonderful, but she wants to be actually on my body about 20

hours a day - she's sleeping in my lap right now. I have been walking with her

every day, but it's about to get hot and I know I won't go walking when it's

hot. I just won't. Anyway, I go to the gym to check it out tomorrow. I'm a

little worried because Violet is in separation anxiety mode right now, so I

don't know how this is going to work. And I've never left her anywhere without

me for any length of time. We don't have any family here, aside from my

husband's stepsister, so it's pretty much just us and the baby.

>

> So V will go to " Kid Kare " tomorrow while I tour the gym. Eek. She's not

going to like it. But if it works out and we can afford to join then I think I

will be happy to have 1-2 hours to focus on myself for 5 days per week. Right

now I'm overloaded with baby and sleep deprived. She's a wonderful baby and I'm

so glad she's so energetic, but she wears me out. I'm putting myself on project

status, as Dr. Phil would say, and hoping that having some time to myself at the

gym will be an incentive to go and will help me get over my gym dread. So I'll

check out the gym tomorrow and go from there.

>

> As for eating, like I said, I'm going with the Dr. Phil method. I don't have

a lot of time to do much of anything, but I do like to cook, so I'm just going

to try to make healthy goals every week/month and keep the momentum going until

I get there.

>

> I'm starting a blog too, where I'll write and post pictures and stuff like

that.

>

> Thanks! I'm glad there are groups like these out there!

>

> - Maya

> http://www.losing4babyv.blogspot.com

>

> __________________________________________________

>

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He's got a book - The Ultimate Weight Solution. In it, he discusses 7 keys to weight loss. Of course he talks about food and exercise, but there's also things like setting up a no-fail environment, "right thinking," and making sure you have people around you who support you. - MayaAngel <angel@...> wrote: What is the Dr. Phil method?Good luck!~Angel301/250/175On Wed, 7 Jun 2006, Losing 4 Baby V wrote:> Hi all.>> I joined this group a while back, then moved from

Florida to Tennessee and haven't kept up with it. So I'm starting over now and thought I'd introduce myself.>> My name is Maya, I'm 36 years old, and I live in Knoxville, TN. I'm married to Ross and we have a 7-month-old daughter named Violet. Right now I'm blessed to be working at home doing editing/proofing for the company I worked for in Atlanta, where we're from originally. Last year we lived in West Palm Beach and we were still in the hospital after having Violet when hurricane Wilma hit. So that was fun. :-P>> I weigh 250.5 pounds, as of this morning. My "plan" is to go the Dr. Phil way. I've long struggled with body image issues, but I am thinking of joining a gym. My daughter is wonderful, but she wants to be actually on my body about 20 hours a day - she's sleeping in my lap right now. I have been walking with her every day, but it's about to get hot and I know I won't go walking when it's hot. I just won't. Anyway, I go to the gym to

check it out tomorrow. I'm a little worried because Violet is in separation anxiety mode right now, so I don't know how this is going to work. And I've never left her anywhere without me for any length of time. We don't have any family here, aside from my husband's stepsister, so it's pretty much just us and the baby.>> So V will go to "Kid Kare" tomorrow while I tour the gym. Eek. She's not going to like it. But if it works out and we can afford to join then I think I will be happy to have 1-2 hours to focus on myself for 5 days per week. Right now I'm overloaded with baby and sleep deprived. She's a wonderful baby and I'm so glad she's so energetic, but she wears me out. I'm putting myself on project status, as Dr. Phil would say, and hoping that having some time to myself at the gym will be an incentive to go and will help me get over my gym dread. So I'll check out the gym tomorrow and go from there.>> As for eating, like I said, I'm going

with the Dr. Phil method. I don't have a lot of time to do much of anything, but I do like to cook, so I'm just going to try to make healthy goals every week/month and keep the momentum going until I get there.>> I'm starting a blog too, where I'll write and post pictures and stuff like that.>> Thanks! I'm glad there are groups like these out there!>> - Maya> http://www.losing4babyv.blogspot.com>> __________________________________________________>