Re: Dealing with people making fun of overweight people - like me???????????

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The first thing that comes to mind was several years ago when we went to the state fair to watch my in-laws pitch horse shoes. The horse shoe court backed up to the tractor pulls going on and they shared a concession stand. The fence wasn't right up to the concession and I guess some could sneak through to the other side. My FIL quickly pointed out the fact that I wouldn't be sneaking through because I was too big. I was horrified as it was in a crowd and we happened to be standing next to the concession.. not IN line, but just near by. I wanted to crawl in a hole but couldn't find a BIG ENOUGH one. UGH! But I just said, "yep" and walked away. He thought nothing of it.

Amy

Dealing with people making fun of overweight people - like me???????????

I read a post, but can't find it now about how some person's kids were making fun of them.I would like to know how everyone deals with this. If it is a small kid who says "wow, you are so big." It doesn't bother me as much as a little older kid.Kids don't bother me as much as adults who make comments. There have been several times that I was on diets and quit because someone would make a comment about my weight and I would get depressed and eat.I have had people yell at me when riding a bike, walking on the track, comments at the beach were horrible and in front of my niece and nephew, etc. That is part of the reason I quit exercising in public, because someone would make comments. I used to be very athletic, but I let these jerks turn me into a hermit. The less exercise I got, the more I gained.So what does everyone do in these situations? Part of the reason I am so sensitive about my weight is because my mother always wanted me to lose and made me go for a while exercising in front of my skinny brother and dad while they watched tv. I was also made fun of from kindergarden through 12th grade, partly because of my weight (which I wasn't overweight in 9-12, but they made me think I was) and partly because I was poor and shy.Coping strategies- what do you do? How do I and maybe- we -break the cycle?This may be a serious problem for some of us.Thanks and God Bless,Rhonda

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lol...that sounds so much like my step-mother in- law .

we were sitting at a crowded restaurant one time and she looked at me and was like..

WOW, you have a lot of gray hair (i think i was 27 or 28 at the time).

i was a little cattier than you though..i just said to her at least i know what color it is...

boy did i pay for that snarky comment for a long long time...lol

-HeidiOn 1/22/06, Carl & Amy <acwinston@...> wrote:

The first thing that comes to mind was several years ago when we went to the state fair to watch my in-laws pitch horse shoes. The horse shoe court backed up to the tractor pulls going on and they shared a concession stand. The fence wasn't right up to the concession and I guess some could sneak through to the other side. My FIL quickly pointed out the fact that I wouldn't be sneaking through because I was too big. I was horrified as it was in a crowd and we happened to be standing next to the concession.. not IN line, but just near by. I wanted to crawl in a hole but couldn't find a BIG ENOUGH one. UGH! But I just said, " yep " and walked away. He thought nothing of it.

Amy

Dealing with people making fun of overweight people - like me???????????

I read a post, but can't find it now about how some person's kids were making fun of them.I would like to know how everyone deals with this. If it is a small kid who says " wow, you are so big. " It doesn't bother me as much as a little older kid.Kids don't bother me as much as adults who make comments. There have been several times that I was on diets and quit because someone would make a comment about my weight and I would get depressed and eat.I have had people yell at me when riding a bike, walking on the track, comments at the beach were horrible and in front of my niece and nephew, etc. That is part of the reason I quit exercising in public, because someone would make comments. I used to be very athletic, but I let these jerks turn me into a hermit. The less exercise I got, the more I gained.So what does everyone do in these situations? Part of the reason I am so sensitive about my weight is because my mother always wanted me to lose and made me go for a while exercising in front of my skinny brother and dad while they watched tv. I was also made fun of from kindergarden through 12th grade, partly because of my weight (which I wasn't overweight in 9-12, but they made me think I was) and partly because I was poor and shy.Coping strategies- what do you do? How do I and maybe- we -break the cycle?This may be a serious problem for some of us.Thanks and God Bless,Rhonda

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HEIDI!!!! I thought I was the only one that had a mother-in-law like

that!

lm

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Thankfully, I have not had this many situations to deal with. My husband's niece and nephew (teenagers) Never have called me fat but said "You just have extra skin." I loved it. It was the most gentle way of saying the same thing. So now if a comment is made about 'fat' that is what I say. "No, I (or they) just have extra skin." I have also used Garfield's comment. I am not overweight -- I am just undertall. That one works for me because I am only 4'11". =0) Lately, for myself I have

thought...no one makes any bones about asking a smoker to stop his smoking. I sometimes wish someone would come up to me and ask me to stop eating. Perhaps it would make a difference in how much I ate. My mother is a smoker and for years we have begged her to quit smoking. And in return she has put me on every diet imaginable, made me exercise in front of relatives, gone to my gym teacher in front of the whole class and poked my chest asking how to get rid of 'this' (the fat)...you name it she has done it. So I guess turn about is fair play. Yes, the comments are hurtful. But for me they are hurtful because they are true. And the old

cliche THE TRUTH HURTS....well, for me that is true. When it hurts I have 2 choices...eat more, and gain more OR change my eating and moving habits and lose the weight. Ultimately the choice is mine. Several years ago, after another relative killed themselves, I began to see a pattern. Suicide runs in my family...and even though I am terrified of killing myself... I am slowly committing suicide by continuing to eat and gain weight. SO NOW I choose life every day when I eat only what my body needs and exercise and sleep... and take care of myself. Just my thoughts from one with way too much extra skin, TeraseeRhonda <decatgirl34@...> wrote: I read a post, but can't find it now about how some person's kids were making fun of them.I would like to know how everyone deals with this. If it is a small kid who says "wow, you are so big." It doesn't bother me as much as a little older kid.Kids don't bother me as much as adults who make comments. There have been several times that I was on diets and quit because someone would make a comment about my weight and I would get depressed and eat.I have had people yell at me when riding a bike, walking on the track, comments at the beach were horrible and in front of my niece and nephew, etc. That is part of the reason I quit exercising in public, because

someone would make comments. I used to be very athletic, but I let these jerks turn me into a hermit. The less exercise I got, the more I gained.So what does everyone do in these situations? Part of the reason I am so sensitive about my weight is because my mother always wanted me to lose and made me go for a while exercising in front of my skinny brother and dad while they watched tv. I was also made fun of from kindergarden through 12th grade, partly because of my weight (which I wasn't overweight in 9-12, but they made me think I was) and partly because I was poor and shy.Coping strategies- what do you do? How do I and maybe- we -break the cycle?This may be a serious problem for some of us.Thanks and God Bless,Rhonda One Day Ata Time, Terasee

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It really upsets me to hear stories like this. We may be overweight but we are all humans with feelings. I have been overweight since im about 6 years old when i became very ill as a child with kidney failure. People comment that your overweight... yet they comment when your exercising trying to lose it... basically i have felt im in a catch 22 situation no matter what i do.... over the years though.... ive developed the attitude that i dont care what other people think.... I have joined a gym and enjoy going.... i get the stares.... i see the giggles.... i have had comments made to me... but the reality is there are MANY IGNORANT people in this world... and whether family (which i have had family members comment... such as "you would be so beautiful if you lost weight), friends, or strangers..... my look on it is if you cant accept me for who and what i am now..... your not worth knowing when i am down to my goal weight..... i know it

sounds harsh.... but the fact of the matter is that I, as a person, am not going to change my personality... regardless of how much i weigh.... Rhonda <decatgirl34@...> wrote: I read a post, but can't find it now about how some person's kids were making fun of them.I would like to know how everyone deals with this. If it is a small kid who says "wow, you are so big." It doesn't bother me as much as a little older kid.Kids don't bother me as much as adults who make comments. There have been several times that I was on diets and quit because someone would make a comment about my weight and I would get depressed and eat.I have had people yell at me when riding a bike, walking on the track, comments at the beach were horrible and in front of my niece and nephew,

etc. That is part of the reason I quit exercising in public, because someone would make comments. I used to be very athletic, but I let these jerks turn me into a hermit. The less exercise I got, the more I gained.So what does everyone do in these situations? Part of the reason I am so sensitive about my weight is because my mother always wanted me to lose and made me go for a while exercising in front of my skinny brother and dad while they watched tv. I was also made fun of from kindergarden through 12th grade, partly because of my weight (which I wasn't overweight in 9-12, but they made me think I was) and partly because I was poor and shy.Coping strategies- what do you do? How do I and maybe- we -break the cycle?This may be a serious problem for some of us.Thanks and God Bless,Rhonda

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I know its hard but I try and shrug it off. to me the kids who do it really dont know any better because their parents didnt teach them any better. And for the adults who do it, well to me that is just plain stupid on their part. I would rather be fat all my life then be so miserable that I had to judge others based on their looks. All my childhood I had a lazy eye, and although the kids teased me and picked on me and it hurt so bad it made ME a better person for it. I dont judge others based on their looks, I dont say things to hurt someones feelings. So when someone does something to be hurtful to me I just have pity for them that their life is SOOO dull they need to try and hurt me. Hnag in there!

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I'm only 4'11 too. Well, when I stretch I'm 4'11. Otherwise I am 4'10 and 3/4, but I just say 4'11. Makes me feel taller.

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Oh MY God ! I get that all the time - You would be so

beautiful if you lost weight. How can people say that? Everyone is

beautiful to me, no matter what size, color, country, etc - I truly

believe everyone is beautiful and has something great within them. -

Sometimes its hard to find - heehee, but it is there

If you are a sensitive person in this world, it is tough I need

to get thick skinned so that comments don't hurt me so badly.

Thanks for the comments.

Rhonda

I read a post, but can't find it

now about how some person's kids

> were making fun of them.

>

> I would like to know how everyone deals with this. If it is a

small

> kid who says " wow, you are so big. " It doesn't bother me as much

> as a little older kid.

>

> Kids don't bother me as much as adults who make comments. There

> have been several times that I was on diets and quit because

someone

> would make a comment about my weight and I would get depressed and

> eat.

>

> I have had people yell at me when riding a bike, walking on the

> track, comments at the beach were horrible and in front of my

niece

> and nephew, etc. That is part of the reason I quit exercising in

> public, because someone would make comments. I used to be very

> athletic, but I let these jerks turn me into a hermit. The less

> exercise I got, the more I gained.

>

> So what does everyone do in these situations? Part of the reason

I

> am so sensitive about my weight is because my mother always wanted

> me to lose and made me go for a while exercising in front of my

> skinny brother and dad while they watched tv. I was also made fun

> of from kindergarden through 12th grade, partly because of my

weight

> (which I wasn't overweight in 9-12, but they made me think I was)

> and partly because I was poor and shy.

>

> Coping strategies- what do you do? How do I and maybe- we -break

> the cycle?

>

> This may be a serious problem for some of us.

>

> Thanks and God Bless,

> Rhonda

>

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I totally relate to you lol I'm 5'1/2 LOL I wont give up my half inch for nothing lol

Re: Dealing with people making fun of overweight people - like me???????????

I'm only 4'11 too. Well, when I stretch I'm 4'11. Otherwise I am 4'10 and 3/4, but I just say 4'11. Makes me feel taller.

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Oh MY God ! I get that all the time - You would be so

beautiful if you lost weight. How can people say that? Everyone is

beautiful to me, no matter what size, color, country, etc - I truly

believe everyone is beautiful and has something great within them. -

Sometimes its hard to find - heehee, but it is there

If you are a sensitive person in this world, it is tough I need

to get thick skinned so that comments don't hurt me so badly.

Thanks for the comments.

Rhonda

I read a post, but can't find it

now about how some person's kids

> were making fun of them.

>

> I would like to know how everyone deals with this. If it is a

small

> kid who says " wow, you are so big. " It doesn't bother me as much

> as a little older kid.

>

> Kids don't bother me as much as adults who make comments. There

> have been several times that I was on diets and quit because

someone

> would make a comment about my weight and I would get depressed and

> eat.

>

> I have had people yell at me when riding a bike, walking on the

> track, comments at the beach were horrible and in front of my

niece

> and nephew, etc. That is part of the reason I quit exercising in

> public, because someone would make comments. I used to be very

> athletic, but I let these jerks turn me into a hermit. The less

> exercise I got, the more I gained.

>

> So what does everyone do in these situations? Part of the reason

I

> am so sensitive about my weight is because my mother always wanted

> me to lose and made me go for a while exercising in front of my

> skinny brother and dad while they watched tv. I was also made fun

> of from kindergarden through 12th grade, partly because of my

weight

> (which I wasn't overweight in 9-12, but they made me think I was)

> and partly because I was poor and shy.

>

> Coping strategies- what do you do? How do I and maybe- we -break

> the cycle?

>

> This may be a serious problem for some of us.

>

> Thanks and God Bless,

> Rhonda

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! Then do what you vave to do for yourself! That way you

pleased at least one person...YOURSELF!!!!

linda Marie