Guest guest Posted November 9, 2006 Report Share Posted November 9, 2006 Sorry if I offended - no, it's not a matter of being sanctimonious at all, or perfect. It's a matter of facing your own truth. If you smoke and you can't stop right now, that is your truth and you should honor where you are, because there is a reason for where you are, and what is, needs to be. Being a yoga teacher and a psychologist in training, I work with just these questions. What I do not endorse is denial: well, I smoke, but it's not the smoke that is hurting me, it's the stress. Part of owning your own truth ( " I smoke " ) is owning the full reality of it ( " I smoke, and this is hurting me " ), rather than displacing the harm onto stress ( " I smoke, but that's not what is harming me, it is the stress " ). Hope this helps. Nina The subject of smoking I was a little bit annoyed by Alobar and Nina's attitude to . She said she was a heavy smoker and used to suffer bad stress. I gave up over 20 years ago and it took me several attempts and the time had to be right. It's hard to give up and she obviously knows it is not good for her. Outright condemnation is hardly the way to go. Sorry, however much i respect the pair of you and value all your advice i still think you sounded sanctimonious. We should be supporting her. We can't all be perfect. Sally -- No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.14.0/525 - Release Date: 11/9/2006 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 9, 2006 Report Share Posted November 9, 2006 Two years back when my allergy problems were at peak, i often needed stimulation in the form of smoking or caffeine. It was only after i eliminated the causes my body did not feel the need of stimulants. So i don't think smoking could be the root cause of the problem in all the cases, atleast for me not. n.g. Nina Moliver <yoganina@...> wrote: Sorry if I offended - no, it's not a matter of being sanctimonious at all, or perfect. It's a matter of facing your own truth. If you smoke and you can't stop right now, that is your truth and you should honor where you are, because there is a reason for where you are, and what is, needs to be. Being a yoga teacher and a psychologist in training, I work with just these questions. What I do not endorse is denial: well, I smoke, but it's not the smoke that is hurting me, it's the stress. Part of owning your own truth ( " I smoke " ) is owning the full reality of it ( " I smoke, and this is hurting me " ), rather than displacing the harm onto stress ( " I smoke, but that's not what is harming me, it is the stress " ). Hope this helps. Nina The subject of smoking I was a little bit annoyed by Alobar and Nina's attitude to . She said she was a heavy smoker and used to suffer bad stress. I gave up over 20 years ago and it took me several attempts and the time had to be right. It's hard to give up and she obviously knows it is not good for her. Outright condemnation is hardly the way to go. Sorry, however much i respect the pair of you and value all your advice i still think you sounded sanctimonious. We should be supporting her. We can't all be perfect. Sally -- No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.14.0/525 - Release Date: 11/9/2006 --------------------------------- Everyone is raving about the all-new beta. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 9, 2006 Report Share Posted November 9, 2006 Once again as a " budding psychologist, " nutritionist, yoga teacher et al - one thing I have learned is that something doesn't have to be the root cause for it to exacerbate or do harm. It is not always easy to identify the cause of something you've got, as what exacerbates can create brand new problems as well. These are known as " feedback loops, " rather than causes. Nina The subject of smoking I was a little bit annoyed by Alobar and Nina's attitude to . She said she was a heavy smoker and used to suffer bad stress. I gave up over 20 years ago and it took me several attempts and the time had to be right. It's hard to give up and she obviously knows it is not good for her. Outright condemnation is hardly the way to go. Sorry, however much i respect the pair of you and value all your advice i still think you sounded sanctimonious. We should be supporting her. We can't all be perfect. Sally -- No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.14.0/525 - Release Date: 11/9/2006 --------------------------------- Everyone is raving about the all-new beta. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 9, 2006 Report Share Posted November 9, 2006 > Sorry if I offended - no, it's not a matter of being sanctimonious at all, > or perfect. It's a matter of facing your own truth. If you smoke and you > can't stop right now, that is your truth and you should honor where you are, > because there is a reason for where you are, and what is, needs to be. > Being a yoga teacher and a psychologist in training, I work with just these > questions. What I do not endorse is denial: well, I smoke, but it's not > the smoke that is hurting me, it's the stress. Part of owning your own > truth ( " I smoke " ) is owning the full reality of it ( " I smoke, and this is > hurting me " ), rather than displacing the harm onto stress ( " I smoke, but > that's not what is harming me, it is the stress " ). > > Hope this helps. > > Nina > > The subject of smoking > > I was a little bit annoyed by Alobar and Nina's attitude to . > She said she was a heavy smoker and used to suffer bad stress. I gave > up over 20 years ago and it took me several attempts and the time had > to be right. > It's hard to give up and she obviously knows it is not good for her. > Outright condemnation is hardly the way to go. > Sorry, however much i respect the pair of you and value all your > advice i still think you sounded > sanctimonious. > We should be supporting her. We can't all be perfect. > Sally > -- > No virus found in this outgoing message. > Checked by AVG Free Edition. > Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.14.0/525 - Release Date: 11/9/2006 > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Everyone is raving about the all-new beta. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 9, 2006 Report Share Posted November 9, 2006 asking why someone would be smoking if they have circulatory and stress problems, or any health problems for that matter, almost implies that only healthy people should be smoking, and that people can quit smoking just like that. which of course is absurd. so i guess the question was a veiled way of giving the advice to stop smoking, which I bet the person in question is working on, considering we are all health conscious. On 11/9/06, sallyhffmn <sally.hoffman@...> wrote: > > > > Sorry if I offended - no, it's not a matter of being > sanctimonious at all, > > or perfect. It's a matter of facing your own truth. If you smoke > and you > > can't stop right now, that is your truth and you should honor > where you are, > > because there is a reason for where you are, and what is, needs to > be. > > Being a yoga teacher and a psychologist in training, I work with > just these > > questions. What I do not endorse is denial: well, I smoke, but > it's not > > the smoke that is hurting me, it's the stress. Part of owning your > own > > truth ( " I smoke " ) is owning the full reality of it ( " I smoke, and > this is > > hurting me " ), rather than displacing the harm onto stress ( " I > smoke, but > > that's not what is harming me, it is the stress " ). > > > > Hope this helps. > > > > Nina > > > > The subject of smoking > > > > I was a little bit annoyed by Alobar and Nina's attitude to . > > She said she was a heavy smoker and used to suffer bad stress. I > gave > > up over 20 years ago and it took me several attempts and the time > had > > to be right. > > It's hard to give up and she obviously knows it is not good for > her. > > Outright condemnation is hardly the way to go. > > Sorry, however much i respect the pair of you and value all your > > advice i still think you sounded > > sanctimonious. > > We should be supporting her. We can't all be perfect. > > Sally > > -- > > No virus found in this outgoing message. > > Checked by AVG Free Edition. > > Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.14.0/525 - Release Date: > 11/9/2006 > > > > > > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > > Everyone is raving about the all-new beta. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 9, 2006 Report Share Posted November 9, 2006 > > > Sorry if I offended - no, it's not a matter of being > > sanctimonious at all, > > > or perfect. It's a matter of facing your own truth. If you smoke > > and you > > > can't stop right now, that is your truth and you should honor > > where you are, > > > because there is a reason for where you are, and what is, needs to > > be. > > > Being a yoga teacher and a psychologist in training, I work with > > just these > > > questions. What I do not endorse is denial: well, I smoke, but > > it's not > > > the smoke that is hurting me, it's the stress. Part of owning your > > own > > > truth ( " I smoke " ) is owning the full reality of it ( " I smoke, and > > this is > > > hurting me " ), rather than displacing the harm onto stress ( " I > > smoke, but > > > that's not what is harming me, it is the stress " ). > > > > > > Hope this helps. > > > > > > Nina > > > > > > The subject of smoking > > > > > > I was a little bit annoyed by Alobar and Nina's attitude to . > > > She said she was a heavy smoker and used to suffer bad stress. I > > gave > > > up over 20 years ago and it took me several attempts and the time > > had > > > to be right. > > > It's hard to give up and she obviously knows it is not good for > > her. > > > Outright condemnation is hardly the way to go. > > > Sorry, however much i respect the pair of you and value all your > > > advice i still think you sounded > > > sanctimonious. > > > We should be supporting her. We can't all be perfect. > > > Sally > > > -- > > > No virus found in this outgoing message. > > > Checked by AVG Free Edition. > > > Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.14.0/525 - Release Date: > > 11/9/2006 > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > > > Everyone is raving about the all-new beta. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 9, 2006 Report Share Posted November 9, 2006 How right you are. I quit almost 7 yrs ago now and when I quit it was the easiest thing to do, because all the forces of the universe converged upon me at that moment and when I put out that last cigarette, i got the support i needed to make it work. BUT it took me YEARS to get to that position. There were many failed attempts in the meantime. EVERYONE must pick their OWN time and place and it must be for their OWN reasons. Doing it for someone else or out of guilt is NOT going to work. Thats a setup for sure failure. I tried the patches - didn't work - made me smoke even more. I tried the gradual tapering off- not successful - as soon as my stress increased right back to smoking as per usual or even a bit more. Cold Turkey- because I was resigned to quit - because I knew it was what i wanted to do- because I was tired of being controlled by this habit - because i wanted to be FREE. That worked. No withdrawl symptoms, no irritability, no crabbiness, no cravings. What i did get was an appetite that couldn't be turned off. 2 yrs and 65 pounds later the appetite finally returned to more normal levels and have been working on getting that excess weight off ever since. So far 40 have disappeared and the rest is going to go Im sure. VCO and Kefir are making a real difference. huggs zoe Thursday, November 9, 2006, 8:14:15 AM, you wrote: > > They say giving up smoking is worse than giving up herion addiction. > I remember when i gave up i was climbing the walls. Smoking that is > not heroin. lol I had to give up because everytime i got a cold it > went straight to my chest and i got bronchitis. Since giving up > smoking never had bronchitis again. I am very anti-smoking now but > i do feel how ever much you nag someone, it won't make any > difference, they have to choose the right time for them. Stress is > bad for cholesterol but smoking is bad for cholesterol too, and is > a cause of heart attacks not just cancers. There is no easy way but > people should not be blase about it. It is like telling overweight > people to just give up eating the wrong food. If you are addicted > to whatever it is. It's not easy. > Sally Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 9, 2006 Report Share Posted November 9, 2006 Not sanctimounius, Sally. Just tough love. I was a sugar junkie for many years. I kept avoiding that I had a serious addiction. It took me being diagnosed as a diabetic and having a non-healing hole in my foot to get thru my denial of the problem. Quitting was by no means easy. I was suicidal for a while. I felt if I could not have my sugar and bread that life was just not worth living. Years ago I knew a chemist who sent me an article on addictive substances. White sugar is more addictive than heroine, cocaine or tobacco. The knowledge that I have had friends who manafged to give up heroine gave me the strength to work thru the suicidal phase of withdrawal. While it was very hard for a while, I sure am glad I persisted. I have known other diabetics who moderated their carb habits, but never gave them up. They smoke even though smoking hinders circulation and diabetics can lose limbs from poor circulation. Over the past 5 years, I have gotten healthier, gotten off diabetic meds, and control my blood sugars thru diet and supplements. Whereas one of the diabetics who still smoked, and ate sugar and bread was in a wheelchair the last time I saw him. And now he is dead. Both he and I are about the same age, and both of us werwe diagnosed diabetic atg about the same time. Another one of the diabetics is in far worse health than he was 5 years ago. All things considered, I am doing pretty good. The longer someone persists in a suicidal habit, the greater the danger. Seems to me that someone looking to compensate for a dangerous addiction by supplementing with VCO or taking a vitamin pill is not looking at the problem head on. No, I sure can't tell someone to quit. Not my job in life. But I can inquire into why someone persists in a habit which he or she appears to realize is not good for him or her. I am curious, Sally -- would you have the same persspecive if someone were using VCO in an attempt to to negate some of the bad side effects of taking heroin or cocaine? Alobar On 11/9/06, sallyhffmn <sally.hoffman@...> wrote: > I was a little bit annoyed by Alobar and Nina's attitude to . > She said she was a heavy smoker and used to suffer bad stress. I gave > up over 20 years ago and it took me several attempts and the time had > to be right. > It's hard to give up and she obviously knows it is not good for her. > Outright condemnation is hardly the way to go. > Sorry, however much i respect the pair of you and value all your > advice i still think you sounded > sanctimonious. > We should be supporting her. We can't all be perfect. > Sally > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 9, 2006 Report Share Posted November 9, 2006 > > I was a little bit annoyed by Alobar and Nina's attitude to . > > She said she was a heavy smoker and used to suffer bad stress. I gave > > up over 20 years ago and it took me several attempts and the time had > > to be right. > > It's hard to give up and she obviously knows it is not good for her. > > Outright condemnation is hardly the way to go. > > Sorry, however much i respect the pair of you and value all your > > advice i still think you sounded > > sanctimonious. > > We should be supporting her. We can't all be perfect. > > Sally > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 18, 2006 Report Share Posted November 18, 2006 " sugar is more addictive than heroine, cocaine or tobacco. " It wasnt till I read this that it hit me that this is true. Ive always had a problem with sugar. I was putting on heaps of weight and I was geting close to being a diabetic. Even though i gave up chocolate,I would not stop eating dates.I couldnt stop at one,it would be 1/4 kilo at a time,and relapse to chocevery 2 months forgeting how dangerous it is and end up onthe old sugar habits. I knew I had to give it all up because it was leading me to being a diabetic,it runs in our family.Some have lost limbs. But I had some help.Beside wanting to lose weight,I started to take a herb called 'cats claw'.this helps to interfere with the cravings or addictions to substances of any kind. I take 2 grams a day and it REALLY stops 90% of severe cravings. BUT you must be determined also. Now it seems i can take it or leave it,but I have to be careful. If you live in the U.S. you are lucky that WWW.Rain-tree.com has a very good supply of this herb and is also organic. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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